I'm feeling really guilty because I wasn't there for my so-called best friend when her boyfriend left her.
We haven't spoken for 9 months but I text her the other day because I was wondering why - just wanted to know what I'd done really.
I always thought I was a good friend to her.. I was there for every other break up (and there were a lot!), spent more time and effort helping them to do up their house than they did even, proof-read her dissertation for her etc. etc. The last time we saw each other I'd poured my heart out as I'd been struggling with depression and had decided to leave university for that year. This was January time. A month later I got a job in France and left straightaway. I think this coincided with her break up. I was a bit of an emotional wreck myself at the time and was still struggling with my own mental health, so when I found out they'd broken up yet again, I never got around to texting or calling to see if she was OK. I feel absolutely terrible about it now, how hard would it have been to send a text? Then again she wasn't there for me when I needed her either.
She was my only friend in this area. She is always surrounded by people and has loads of friends. I now have no social life whatsoever unless I tag along with my mum or boyfriend. I'm expecting my first baby (am 34+5), and just feel a bit sad that I have no friends anymore.
Tell me to buck my ideas up, that I'm better off without her/she without me please :).
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I'm a bad friend :(
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WishYouWereMine · 05/10/2011 21:43
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