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Think I need to be prepared to go it alone, what should I do?

(5 Posts)
neepsntatties Tue 04-Oct-11 23:06:44

I posted the other week about problems with my dh, we have been married 10 years and have 2 dc. Things are not going well, he is often horrible to me and nearly always moody. He threatens me with leaving but now I am thinking on you go!

I am scared though, I am afraid of being alone. Also of being prepared for this process. What do I need to know? My dh is from another country, what if he goes back there, what rights will he have? He is a British citizen. What can I do to prepare myself?

mumtofour Tue 04-Oct-11 23:35:17

Bless you, you are trying to deal with so much. I am not sure what rights your husband will have but can places like citizens advice help with answers to your questions ? It's bound to make you feel scared as it's life changing decisions. But you must do what you feel s best for you..good luck x

FabbyChic Tue 04-Oct-11 23:35:31

Make sure you have enough money basically, get yourself prepared if necessary to claim benefits, see what you are entitled to via an online calculator.

They won't pay Mortgage Interest for 9 months, but they do pay rent on rented properties and its possible you will get council tax relief too.

Dont bad mouth him to your children, kids only have one dad.

Midgeroo Wed 05-Oct-11 10:27:11

OMG this is my situation exactly. I've actually just posted a message.. any solicitors or anyone with experience in seperation...

I've just emailed a solicitor that offers free initial appointments. Hoping to find out where I stand on the house, kids, savings etc and not have to pay huge solicitors bills.

If you log onto the law society you can find solicitors in your area that specialise in family law.

I'm also planning on getting in touch with relate to find out about councilling.

I am hoping we can have a trial separation and he'll realise what an idiot he's been. I do also understand this may not be the case and we will stay apart but maybe it's time to stand on my own, it will be difficult emotionally and financially but you've got to think what's best for the kids.

Good luck!

TiredOfGoingRoundInCircles Wed 05-Oct-11 23:41:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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