Ok i will try and keep this brief. My dp of 4 years told me he was 'in love' with his ex before we got together. I had wanted to be with him for years before we met so even though i was a bit gutted about this at the time, i was more thrilled that he liked me! And i thought those feelings for her would go soon enough. 4 years later, we've had a great relationship, we have a 1y.o. DD and another one on the way. His ex is a friend of his who we see sometimes. He is never inappropriate with her and has been loyal to me. Last weekend he went to a party with her(i had such bad pregnancy sickness i couldnt go out). The next day i asked him if he still claimed to be 'in love' with her, totally expecting him to say 'of course not'. Instead he said yes, and that he has always been, and always will be. I have been an emotional wreck since then, not stopped crying, and have come to stay with my family and i've told him i cant be with him any more. He is very upset. He believes that he is innocent. He says he only wants to be friends with her, he wants to be with me, he cant help fancying her but if he gets any inappropriate thoughts he puts them out of his mind straight away and thinks of me. He is just in love with her and has a special connection. I believe him. I just cannot handle him using the words 'in love with', with another girl! To be in love means to be infatuated with, passionate about, doesnt it? Am i being unreasonable or just hormonal here? I dont want to break up, we're great together, we're in love! I've begged him to tell me it's not really true, but he's not changing his words and says it wont interfere with our relationship. I dont know if i can live with it. Please help me anyone. I'm in pieces. Sorry for the long message in the end.
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Pregnant-and totally heartbroken by DP. Please help:(
treehuggermum · 04/10/2011 00:42
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