I'm in a dilemma. Married for 14 years (together for 20), a 5yo DS with autism, last month DH said he's been having an affair for a year and wants to start a new life with the OW. It's not an unusual story: after DS and especially after DS's diagnosis at age 3, I have focussed my energies mostly on DS, and not been very supportive of DH. We both have FT jobs. Sex has been pretty much non-existent for the last 2 years. DH has been feeling unhappy for a long time, he says, and now he's found someone who makes him happy. He has agreed to try relationship counselling.
Now, one of my best friends has been insisting that this is all about sex, and if only I picked myself up and seduced him, DH'd come back in a flash and we'd sort things out. DH in all this has not mentioned sex at all, although I guess talking about feeling neglected could be code for that.
Is my friend right? The truth is, at the moment the very thought of sex with DH makes me sick, but what if she is right? She says, just do it, it's not such a big deal, and it could solve a lot of problems - do you think she has a point?
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Is sex really the solution to all relationship problems?
sc13 · 30/09/2011 11:06
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