DH has had severe depression for 4 years. On meds, getting counselling, seeing psychotherapist but he's still as depressed as ever - possibly, getting worse.
If you live with someone who is depressed, how do you respond when they simply ignore you when you come home from work, and routinely drop things into conversations, like "you're lucky I didn't go and hang myself", or "you'd better get used to being alone" etc.
Of course I've tried reassuring him and tryign to suggest positive actions, but he rejects all I say. Tonight for example he insists his life is over, that his current employer has ruined his life and that he'll never work again. He keeps talking about doing violent things to "the bstrds who did this to me - they have to suffer what I'm suffering". (Background: he's being forced into early retirement in March aged 56.)
There are many evenings when he hardly speaks to me. Can't think when he last wished me a good day at work, or asked how my day was, for example.
I relaise this is trivial compared to what many of you are going through but I find it wearing to be dealing with this day in, day out.
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How do you live with someone who is depressed?
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TheyCallMeMimi · 28/09/2011 20:47
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