This is quite long so apologies in advance for what is to come.
we have been friends for around 5 years. I phone her most days as she lives about an hour away and chat for around an hour or so about everything really. She has a husband and 3 children, her husband is my dp's best friend and they have been friends since school. She has been a SAHM since her first child was born 12 years ago and her husband works full time. I know no one has the perfect relationship however her husband treats her like a princess and is great with the kids, hard worker and loves her to death.
Around three years ago she lost quite a bit of weight and as a consequence had a bit of a confidence boost(which we all thought was great as she was quite insecure before) Her husband was always telling her how gorgeous she was at any size.
Anyway! around a month ago she called me to confess she has struck up a conversation with a mutual friend and it had turned inappropriate. She ended up calling him and they were going to meet up. she has said to me before that she went through phases of no fancying her husband any more however it was never anything serious and we speak honestly with each other so I really dont think it was a major issue until she met this guy.
I told her it wasnt a good idea and that she shouldnt meet him as she might end up doing something that she'd regret. Also once you start down the path of an affair then it'd probably affect her marriage. I begged her to leave it at a phone call but she didn't listen.
She has now had a full blown affair and has decided she wants to leave her husband. She was also going to see the OM with her husband knowing about it leaving him an insecure nervous wreck. Her husband has been on the phone to me trying to understand her behaviour. I can't go into too much detail on here as it might give away who she is but the way she has treated him is despicable.
He is now left a shell of his former self as she has been nothing but nasty and cruel to him, she has left the kids with him for days at a time to be with this other man and now she has told him that she is going to take him for every penny he has.
I'm struggling to be her friend. I have not given my opinion on her life however i'm struggling with her behavior. She's acting like a selfish brat and is not thinking about her children or how to behave like a decent human being to the man who has loved and provided for her for 20 years. She is just giving it all up on a whim and the promise of a quick shag.
I think she has gone temporarily insane but my question is..how can I remain friends with such a person or is it none of my business what she does with her marriage and personal life. When she goes on about how great her new life is going to be I could scream with anger at the bloody mess she's left behind. I'm so confused!!PLEASE HELP!!
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My friend has flipped, and I need help!
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Friendhasflipped · 28/09/2011 17:35
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