my mother in law is a very controlling and selfish woman who, since I had my son a year ago has been quite viscous and unreasonable. When my son was born she tried to come between my dh and me. She also tried to hamper the bonding process with my son by insisting on coming over every day day, flustering me and denting my confidence as a new mum. When tackled about this and asked to give me space she became aggressive and assaulted me. In the weeks following she demanded my dh take my son to see her without me (my son was 3 weeks old), causing me great distress.
Following the assault I informed the authorities and got support. I also put a stop to my son being taken from me.
I distanced myself from them, my dh and I rowed a lot as he is very loyal to them. However, he has been supportive since her petty and unreasonable behaviour has continued.
In the year since then we have had to draw boundaries with both her and his sister. If I had my way I would never see them again.
We see mil about every month and that is enough for me. After what she did to me I feel nothing for the woman.
If mil had her way she would be the third parent in our family and we would live in a house without Walls. The problem is I am starting to see signs of bitching again. Luckily for her she has been invited into our home, which is more than she could expect after what she did. I have bent over backwards to heal the rift, but she keeps on being vindictive.
I have noticed that she treats our son less favourably than her other grandchild ie spends much less on him. Don't get me wrong i dont need her to buy my son things. However, I was brought up to believe that children should be treated the same - no favourites.
Also, when we let her babysit last month she declared with glee and spite that he 'did not miss me' (he was only with her half an hour) when we returned home.
Anyone have any advice as I am all out on this situation. I am at the point of not asking her to babysit again (only let her for my husbands sake and very rarely). I feel this latest little bitchy comment is one too far when I could have had her excluded from my sons life a year ago because of her violence. Is she being totally ungrateful? What would you do?
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Ticklemonster2 · 28/09/2011 12:08
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