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Pretty sure DP is starving himself

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BullyBeefBadgers Wed 28-Sep-11 10:18:04

DP had eating disorders as a child and again at Uni. He has always been very thin though. We've been going through one massive rough patch ever since we had DD 5 months ago. I had thought that he just didn't want me anymore etc and that we were heading towards a breakup but have recently begun to suspect that hes using the arguments etc to push me away and hide that he's back to starving himself. I caught him on the scales yesterday and he now weighs the same as me. I am very petite and he is 6ft. He's always been naturally at least 2 stone heavier than me. I can't be sure but he doesn't seem to be eating breakfast or lunch and this week he has begun to leave half of his evening meal. I can't confront him because that always made him worse. He isn't registered at our doctors as we recently moved and he hasn't got around to reregistering yet. I have no idea how to proceed. And to make matters worse until I do the arguments are going to continue and DD is starting to pick up on the atmosphere. He is a student so at home. He also used to have depression and seems to be slipping under again - sleeping 14 hours, never leaving the flat etc. It was an unplanned pregnancy but he had come to terms with it and is really bonding with DD. Money seems to concern him even though we have enough to live comfortably. I'm really struggling to figure out what exactly has triggered this. Thanks for reading so much!

Acinonyx Wed 28-Sep-11 10:43:35

I think if I were you, I would go and talk to my doctor and ask their advice. They may be able to refer you to someone who can give specialist advice, including advice to the close relatives of people with eating disorders.

Does he see other family - have they noticed anything?

BullyBeefBadgers Wed 28-Sep-11 11:17:25

we live 200 miles from all family because he is at uni. I have a docs appointment this afternoon and am hoping she will have some advice etc. Is so difficult to know what to do!

cestlavielife Wed 28-Sep-11 11:21:00

make sure he registers at gp - you can insist he does this as you just moved - they will do health check as matter of course for registration so should pick up any issues

Acinonyx Wed 28-Sep-11 11:43:37

I've never had a health check when registering with a new GP - just signed a form and handed it in at reception.

Deux Wed 28-Sep-11 11:50:25

When we moved I registered all members of the household at the same time. DH didn't have to register separately. Could you do this and fill out the form for him?

BullyBeefBadgers Wed 28-Sep-11 11:54:50

Its also a form at our GP with no health check involved. And I was already registered as had come down to look at flats etc and DD needed jabs and things. So maybe I could just do it for him?? Still not sure that i could make him go to an appointment though. I can't exactly tell the GPs to come and corner him can I?? hmm

buzzskillington Wed 28-Sep-11 12:26:04

Can you talk to student services at his university?

I should register him at your doctor's and talk to your GP about your concerns. You can't make him go to see them, but you could make him an appointment.

Apart from that, you could call B-Eat and see what they advise? 0845
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