how do you go about splitting up?
I am a namechanger. I am a long time poster.
dh and I have been married for 12 years. we have children together, one with additional needs. life has not been easy, and for a variety of reasons I feel like I cannot carry on as we are.
there are issues on both sides, but when I have brought it up before (twice now), dh says he doesn't think we shoudl split up, and things have not been so bad that I (and the children) need to get away, and so it all drifts on.
I am once more thinking that we should go our separate ways. but I am not sure I can get dh to see it that way
he has been married before, and I think he dreads a second divorce most of all.
in a nutshell, I feel typically unappreciated (am a sahm, by agreement), at times unloved (dh is a workaholic), and get very frustrated with the way he does things at times (sleeps in late at weekends, meaning I am the one to get up with the children; whenever we go out for the day it is always me organising everything, from plans to sorting out all the stuff and equipment for children; little to no input in some pretty major things to do with our dc SN). in his defence I am a crap housewife (some of this stems from depression following not coping with dc's SN, feeling unsupported etc, but not all, I am seriously crap at housework), and over time have been increasingly snappy and at times downright awful to him.
so, how can I go about this and try to keep it as amicable as possible? I know he will say that he doesn't think things are that bad, but for me, they are.
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so, when you are reasonably sure it is all over, but your other half doesn't feel the same
thisisnotmyrealname · 27/09/2011 17:48
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