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my best mate asked me if wanted a threesome with her

(34 Posts)
cantstandthenoise Sun 25-Sep-11 17:10:49

Last night out with my best mate, she'd has a skinfull, some random bloke started chatting to us and then suggested a threesome! She acted like I was really uptight for saying no! I feel our friendship is really one sided and this is like the final straw - she ended up going back with him and I think the only reason she wanted me to was because she thought he wouldn't be interested otherwise.

ShowOfHands Sun 25-Sep-11 17:12:40

I'm not sociable enough to understand the point of threesomes. It's just another person to make small talk with. I'm too misanthropic for adventurous sex.

violetwellies Sun 25-Sep-11 17:14:10

Three is definitely a crowd, eyeuk.

cantstandthenoise Sun 25-Sep-11 17:14:28

I wouldn't on so many levels - I only have sex with one person that I like, I'm not into women and she's my best friend...

electra Sun 25-Sep-11 17:15:26

She doesn't sound very mature!

cantstandthenoise Sun 25-Sep-11 17:17:12

well she'd not young! (both of us in our forties!) - she thinks I'm really uptight - I think this is going too far by most people's standards.

Hullygully Sun 25-Sep-11 17:19:12

Is she hot?

cantstandthenoise Sun 25-Sep-11 17:21:48

'Is she hot?' !!! that's a bit irrelevant isn't it?!

MaryQueenOfSpots Sun 25-Sep-11 17:22:45

So how long has she been your best friend?

Does she have some redeeming qualities?

usualsuspect Sun 25-Sep-11 17:23:30

Tut ,Hully beat me to it

bringbacksideburns Sun 25-Sep-11 17:24:22

You're not uptight! Why would you want to watch your mate having sex with some random. I couldn't think of anything more off putting!

If you're not into that, then you're not into that.

If she is a good friend and you like her and value the friendship, then talk to her about how uncomfortable you felt and how important it is that something like that doesn't happen again.

If she values the friendship, she will respect that.

electra Sun 25-Sep-11 17:33:00

I'm guessing she's not hot because otherwise the OP wouldn't have thought she wanted to have a threesome just to keep the guy interested.

RumourOfAHurricane Sun 25-Sep-11 17:37:19

Message withdrawn

Portofino Sun 25-Sep-11 17:41:37

Cor some people have a more exciting social life than me!

rycooler Sun 25-Sep-11 17:42:11

It's taking your duty as a friend a bit far isn't it - it's one thing being there for her when she's feeling down, but having sex with her??
I would have laughed out loud.

DontGoCurly Sun 25-Sep-11 17:46:38

Euuuuurrrrgh!!! Boundaries crossed, can of worms opened, taboos broken all over the place!!!

I would have to cut contact OP. If she is prepared to have sex with you just to get some randomer into the sack then she has serious problems. She sound desperate and she wants to drag you down to her level.

twotesttickles Sun 25-Sep-11 17:49:03

Your friend clearly wants to shag you. Sorry but if she wasn't interested she would have clearly down the bleuuurgh face. So you have two things to deal with....the fact she has a crush on you and the fact that she's a bit of a slapper.

Oh and yes you are totally uptight, so much so your knickers don't fall off instantly nightmare wink

Never ever do this kind of thing with a friend or a long term partner, it'll only end in tears!

twotesttickles Sun 25-Sep-11 17:49:43

Last time a woman suggested something like this to impress a man in front of me I called her on it, snogged her and ran off cackling while she reeled. grin

cantstandthenoise Sat 22-Oct-11 00:13:59

by the way I have heard absolutely nothing from her since and she's supposed to be my best mate. I haven't contacted her as I feel really awkward. Maybe she does too or maybe she just thinks I'm uptight sad

cantstandthenoise Sat 22-Oct-11 00:23:29

just feel sad about it - that's all

BluddyMoFo Sat 22-Oct-11 00:26:03

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

QuintessentialShadyHallows Sat 22-Oct-11 00:27:17

She is probably covering up her own embarrassment by calling you uptight. She is normalizing it to make you look weird rather than her, upon realizing you were not keen.

Make light of it.

SolidGoldVampireBat Sat 22-Oct-11 00:30:46

Well there is nothing wrong with threesomes, if you like them. If you don't like them, there's nothing wrong with that, either. It's possible that your friend is not contacting you because she has fancied you for a while and is hugely embarrassed and hurt that you turned her down. Calling you 'uptight' could have been a reaction to feeling hurt; you know her better than randoms on the internet do.
Or she could have been showing off and being silly, and has now decided that you are 'no fun.'

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