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Immature Mother

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CurlySoo31 Sat 24-Sep-11 21:06:00

Today my mother called me up after I had finished work and asked me to give her a lift somewhere. I said I would not be able to because I had made plans to visit my friend who had just had a baby. She shouted BYE and slammed the phone down on me! Is it just me or is this behaviour unacceptable. My mother acts like a spoilt brat sometimes and I find it difficult to stand up to her because she always refers back to how hard her life is (she is a very negative person) and tries to make me feel guilty. What do other people think? I am envious of people who are best friends with their mothers when my own resents me and does not accept me for the autonomous adult that I am. Has anyone else got a mother who does not treat them very well?

beatenbyayellowteacup Sat 24-Sep-11 21:11:26

Yes! Come over to the Stately Homes thread. There are quite a few of us.

Your mother's behaviour today is completely unacceptable. It shows an utter contempt for your boundaries and choices over how you spend your time.

I know what you mean about being envious of other people's relationships with their mother. I've grieved mine, but I still have a little bit of resentment that I wasn't mothered properly.

hiddenhome Sat 24-Sep-11 22:30:41

Yes, I had a mother who treated me badly so I dumped her 13 years ago.

Best thing I ever did smile

Examine your relationship and act on your instincts. Not all mothers care about their children you know. You're not obliged to have her in your life if you feel she's damaging you.

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