Hi,
I'm looking for some advice please.
I've been on a few dates with a man and the dates were good, he even met my friends over dinner who all thought he was lovely.
Due to an event and the distance he lives from me he ended up staying the night last night and I KNOW that I rushed that when I was not ready. Then I had two comments from him that made alarm bells ring,
number 1) that I am messy! as soon as he got in my flat. (my flat is currently as tidy and neat as it ever looks)
number 2) that I ought to use my vacuum cleaner more and if i have the day free i should spend it cleaning.
This may be true, but my flat is busy not dirty. Crowded but neat...
So, I felt really upset today and decided I don't need a controlling (lets add in rude, ungrateful, critical and bossy) man in my life.
However he phoned me today, I burst into tears, and also explained that he had been rude etc. and he claims he is really shocked and he didn't mean to be like this (but I can't call him rude because of one sentence, one idiotic 'joke') also qualifying this with acknowleging that I do a good job as a single mum and complimenting me on having my own home and running it well etc.
Basically my question is, does anyone think it is worth it to stand up to him and don't let him boss me about... Or is this alarm bell in my head telling me he is 'controlling' indicative of his inbuilt personality which can't be changed?
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Any point trying to change a controlling man?
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