This is my first post, be gentle with me please!
Am lone parent for last 3 years to truly adorable 6 year old son. His dad is in the picture and has him every other weekend, we don't communicate much.
I have been dating my current man for over a year, before that I knew him a friend for long time. We are both 34. He still lives with his mum!!! Not because he has to, but because he wants to, his brother also lives there.
It's all very strange. His mum is rather cold to me, example: "when are Op and her DS going as dinner is nearly ready" (we had to go and get some food at nearby restuarant as was dinner time and my boy was hungry and we live an hour away) My partner had invited us over on a sat afternoon, was about 3 when he arrived and she knew we were coming, have got loads of other similar examples but won't bore you with them!
My partner has always talked a good story, i.e. one day in the future we'll have a baby and live together etc, but this never seems to get any closer, and when I press him (Biological clock ticking and all!) he gets really stressed out with me and says the more I push the less the feels like doing it.
He is very nice to my boy, and generally nice to me, but hates any confrontation, talking about feelings etc.
Now I knew his ex fairly well and she put up with this exact behavior for 3 years, and finally binned him. I told him from the start I wanted another child and if he didn't then not get involved, he said he did and still does say that, but will not say when. He does not want to move in as he has it easy at home, he pays a very small amount and gets everything done for him, so why would he want to come here and have to pay half.
Am so sorry have rambled on. Do you think I should just give up and move on or do you think should keep trying?
I have allowed my son to get close to him
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Opinions please, bin him or reset my expectations?!
bakewelladdiction · 23/09/2011 13:57
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