Does this just sound normal? It's never quite what I expect, and now I'm thinking I just don't have the right expectations. What do you think?
11yo DS: considers himself to have "mates". Has virtually no contact with said "mates" outside of scheduled stuff (like school, one club). Nobody seems keen on him (never gets phone calls & very few invites) Has a long list of "mates" he will invite to forthcoming birthday party, at least.
9yo DD: has "many" friends at school who are desperately important to her. Only one ever makes any effort to invite her to things. Same friend phones, calls around and invites DD frequently. DD does not consider this person her very best mate but always says yes to her invites. DD has one friend she rarely sees (lives far away, no joint clubs or school) but they are glued at the hip when they meet up. That's the only one of any of DC's friendships that I kind of understand.
7yo DS: I consider him to have no friends. Never invited to anything. He thinks he has loads of friends. At lunch time always eats and plays with only one other child (or so he says), whose parents are unfriendly (to both me and DS). This other boy never says hello if he passes DS in the road (may vaguely smile at DS's greetings, at least).
Is that just normal? I worry about the 7yo DS not having friends, but now wonder if I shouldn't. I was bullied badly as a kid, by the way, so have no objective reference from my own childhood. DH was actively discouraged by his parents from socialising outside the family/school hours so he can't say.
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I don't understand Children's friendships at all
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ragged · 22/09/2011 12:21
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