DP cheated on me a few times throughout our 2 year relationship - i decided to stay with him because i am either really stupid or blinded by love.
i am using a new internet server and it automatically brings up the sites in the history of the laptop every time you type in the search bar. I know my other half watches porn (so do i) and it really doesn't bother me when its your usual video porn sites but i have just realised that the site he is using is a cam website and he has been watching other woman in the UK perform on webcams. These are real people and he has signed himself up so he can send messages to tell them what to do when he is watching them. He has also been on a cam to cam site so he has obviously been on the webcam himself.
I am really angry and hurt. To me, this is a form of cheating because he is actually watching 'real people' in 'real time'. I cant bring myself to confront him about it until i calm down a bit.
i am really not sure if i am just over-reacting or if this really is as bad as i think it is. I wouldn't even have thought twice if it had just been a porn video site but its the fact that these people are actually all on there to message each other and do what they are told on a cam in their bedrooms.
our sex life was crap but recently it's been much better so i know he isn't replacing me with the webcams.
would you be annoyed if this was your partner or am i just being stupid?
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DP cheated on me a few times throughout our 2 year relationship - i decided to stay with him because i am either really stupid or blinded by love.
i am using a new internet server and it automatically brings up the sites in the history of the laptop every time you type in the search bar. I know my other half watches porn (so do i) and it really doesn't bother me when its your usual video porn sites but i have just realised that the site he is using is a cam website and he has been watching other woman in the UK perform on webcams. These are real people and he has signed himself up so he can send messages to tell them what to do when he is watching them. He has also been on a cam to cam site so he has obviously been on the webcam himself.
I am really angry and hurt. To me, this is a form of cheating because he is actually watching 'real people' in 'real time'. I cant bring myself to confront him about it until i calm down a bit.
i am really not sure if i am just over-reacting or if this really is as bad as i think it is. I wouldn't even have thought twice if it had just been a porn video site but its the fact that these people are actually all on there to message each other and do what they are told on a cam in their bedrooms.
our sex life was crap but recently it's been much better so i know he isn't replacing me with the webcams.
would you be annoyed if this was your partner or am i just being stupid?
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