I am engaged to be married to my long term boyfriend. We are not actively trying for a baby but not using protection either and have discussed having a baby next year. I thought I was happy with him and I was looking forward to the future but I have recently met someone else and I don?t know what to do.
Here is where it gets complicated because he is also engaged to be married to someone else. However, his culture is different to mine - which is not an issue in itself because my bf is from a different culture too - but this is an arranged marriage rather than a marriage to someone he is already in love with. Although his brother is married to a Scottish woman and they have a young baby together so why he is allowing the arranged marriage I don?t know. It?s not something I have discussed with him or want to discuss because it hurts to even think about it.
We see each other whenever we can which can be a bit tricky but when we are apart I can?t eat, can?t sleep , I?m restless and think of him literally every second of every day until I see him again. A few days ago we had sex for the first time and he used a condom but he told me afterwards that he didn?t think it worked. Stupidly I have done nothing about this.
I am crazy about him and I?m torn between telling him how strongly I feel and seeing what happens or breaking it off and being happy with what I have. I feel guilty for what I?m doing but at the same time I don?t want it to end.
Please help me make sense of all this!
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ohgawdwhathaveidone · 20/09/2011 11:23
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