DH went out with work last week, he was working in the city on the Friday so stayed over in a hotel. no problem with that, happens rarely.
He called earlier to ask if I would pop down to the garage as his car was getting something done, pay the bill and have it moved so he could collect it later this evening.
When he finished work (8ish) he called to say that as he had an early breakfast meeting in the morning he was thinking of staying in a hotel again but wanted to check it was ok with me, (I said it was ok)told me name of hotel, said love you (as normal) and off he went. Now - usually we have a decent conversation, chit chat about day but it seemed like he couldnt wait to get me off the phone - or maybe I am seriously paranoid.
I got a funny feeling in my tummy, got the kids to bed, looked up hotel, called it - nobody by DH name registered there, nobody under business name either. Have tried calling DH phone and it goes straight to voice mail, have text him and have sent him an email saying give me a call please.
As a rule, I am not suspicious, I trust my husband - so why do I have this horrid feeling? Why do I feel this way? It just all seems weird.
And if it all turns out to be a mountain out of a molehill and Anyfucker comes on and tells me to stop reading the relationship board again I will feel much better.
No way would I normally call a hotel to see if he was there, even when he is the other side of the world from us, it just isnt me! But tonight I did.
sorry, super long and jumbled post. If I didnt have the children in bed I would be off to London on the next train, that is how paranoid I feel!
How horrible for you. Probably nothing untoward and he's just busy with work, but the sick feeling in the stomach from anxiety is horrible so I hope he gets in touch soon so that you can get some re-assurance.
ok, he told me name of hotel - the one I called is NOT the one he said, it sounds very similar and I must have misheard. The one he is staying at is just near his office.
He went out for dinner with a couple of colleagues who were also late at the office, one is also staying overnight as he is also at the early breakfast meeting. DH asked what was wrong, so I told him why I felt weird, and he said he would come home. He also said if I wanted to speak to ... who was with him he would go get him and let him speak to me. Obviously I said no to that, no need for his entire office to know that I am feeling like a stupid paranoid wife!
The reason his phone was going to voicemail was he had no signal, went to the loo and he saw lots of missed calls, texts and emails (not just from me I hasten to add!)
Dont know what to think now. I feel like such a paranoid eejit, he has never given me any cause to think he would do anything bad to me. Jesus, maybe I am pre menstrual or something.
DH said he would call me back in a bit once he gets back to hotel - he reassured me that he was doing absolutely nothing wrong, and reiterated that he would get the next train home if I wanted him to - said that he would rather come home and reassure me than have me sitting here thinking he was up to something.
thanks Dolly but I need to have a word with myself and find out why I am feeling like this. I am not a clingy, jealous, paranoid person - quite independent for a 'traditional housewife/sahm' I just dont quite understand why I am feeling this way.
I went to look for some jewellery today to lend to my sis in law at the weekend - one of which DH bought me and I couldnt find it, actually I couldnt find either of the items I was looking for. Maybe it is my guilt projecting onto him.
oh I dunno, I am off for a ciggie and possibly a walnut whip on my way back via the kitchen and a cuppa.
Feeling sheepish, and a tad emotional now. DH just sent me a text with hotel details in (he usually does this) with an apology following - so sorry if I made you worry, sent this earlier and it failed, resending now.
Have told him no need to call me later, just to go and have a drink with work mates and I will speak tohim tomorrow, of to bed soon. text me back to say I have nothing to worry about.
oh yes, walnut first, then the top then eat the inside fluffy bit then the chocolate then the thick bottom bit of chocolate. It is a fine art I tell you. And then I had a 'slice' of mint aero - had forgot that was in the fridge.