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Bah. It's just not FAIR. (semi childish rant coming on)

(5 Posts)
Lifeinlalaland Sat 17-Sep-11 14:26:22

Why oh why is it that the ONE time I meet someone who I really like they are already in a relationship?

Now please don't get me wrong, I am not planning on following up this attraction in any way, I have strong views about going for someone who is partnered.

But argh! It's been a year since I split with my EA ex and I have not even come close to finding anyone else even mildly attractive and so on.

I was beginning to think I was a bit doomed and was despairing of feeling attracted to anyone else again, worrying I might be a bit 'broken' or something.

Then I met someone through a work thing and after spending some time around him suddenly got that uh oh I am VERY attracted to him feeling. I don't need to see him again for work for a few reasons so I can nip this in the bud right now and make sure I don't continue some pointless crush and so on...but this afternoon I feel so bummed out and basically have a slightly childish voice in my head going 'it's not faiiiiiiiiir'.

I know this is hardly an earth shattering problem like other people are going through, it's just i'm kind of lonely and really miss having a closeness you get in a relationship. I can't remember the last time I was kissed or held and so on. I have a busy social and work life, see lots of family and have been meeting people and keeping my mind open about meeting someone in a romantic way and I really truly have not even found ONE person attractive like this in the whole time i've been single. Had that whole sparky feeling even though I was doing my level best to not let it show or be anything other than 100% professional. Just grrr, sometimes it feels like it will never happen for me relationship wise.

So guess just having a little whinge here. :-S Feel free to tell me to stop being silly.

Anniegetyourgun Sat 17-Sep-11 19:52:22

Nah, it just means your 'ormones are back on track. Welcome the feeling and look forward to having it for someone available soon!

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy Sat 17-Sep-11 20:15:14

If only we could bottle that fizz!!

Flights of fantasy indicate that we have a creative imagination which needs to be given room to express itself on occasion and you're not being silly - but, on this occasion you would be if you acted on it as it's never a good idea to mix business with pleasure.

See these feelings for what they are; proof that you've healed and moved on and are now ready to open up and become intimate with a member of the opposite sex again.

Be patient - you will meet someone who's fully available to light your fire and I have a feeling you'll be burning a Yule log with him.

MangoMonster Sat 17-Sep-11 20:55:55

Someone else will come along, have faith.

Lifeinlalaland Sun 18-Sep-11 17:00:00

Thank you for your replies :-).

Yea looking at it realistically I barely know this person and even if my little crush was returned it doesn't matter as I don't plan on seeing them again if I can avoid it.

I like the positivity you have all put on this, I think looking at it that i've finally HAD some sort of proper sparkiness with someone is really good and I am probably getting to the stage where I am ready to meet someone. I have noticed in the last few weeks that I have been feeling so much better after the bad relationship, so this is probably another indicator on the road to healthy relationship happiness :-D.

Thanks again reading these replies really made me snile today.

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