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sex question possibly tmi

(17 Posts)
hardshipuntold Tue 13-Sep-11 17:51:23

ok so me and my sister were having a conversation about women coming
we didnt know if women only came when they have an orgasm or can they come with out one ?
im 31 i should know the answerblush

ToPeeOrNotToPee Tue 13-Sep-11 18:26:02


Coming means having an orgasm.

RumpledTitSkin Tue 13-Sep-11 18:27:32


What TooPee said.

aliceliddell Tue 13-Sep-11 18:29:14

Are you talking about female ejaculation?

RumourOfAHurricane Tue 13-Sep-11 18:29:31

Message withdrawn

FannyFifer Tue 13-Sep-11 18:29:59

Some women can ejaculate though although it's not very common.
Generally orgasms and coming are one and the same.

TDada Tue 13-Sep-11 21:40:48

trip trap

UterusUterusGhali Tue 13-Sep-11 22:31:43

Christ on a bike.

Here you go m'darlin.

NettleTea Tue 13-Sep-11 22:51:36

you say that, but on Embarrassing bodies this week there were a bunch of girls in their 20's who didnt know what their vulva was !!!

Even my 10 year old DD knows what her bits are called. We were both pretty agog at the levels of ignorance out there.....

EricNorthmansMistress Tue 13-Sep-11 23:09:31

What do you think 'coming' means? confused

LeBOF Tue 13-Sep-11 23:11:29

It's only a problem if you've come before you've turned up, generally. Might as well have stayed in.

Renaissance227 Wed 14-Sep-11 14:48:15

grin at this thread!

AbbyAbsinthe Wed 14-Sep-11 15:07:31

LeBOF grin

northernruth Wed 14-Sep-11 16:12:14

hmm are you for real?????

hardshipuntold Fri 16-Sep-11 08:07:55

yes genuine question
so the wetness before coming is ??? just normal vaginal lubricant ??

EricNorthmansMistress Fri 16-Sep-11 09:48:47


Women don't ejaculate as a rule when they orgasm. A few do, but most don't. Wetness when having sex is vaginal lubricant caused by arousal which can often happen leading up to orgasm. The idea that women gush wet as they orgasm is a myth (as a rule, as I say, some women do ejaculate liquid, but again, not always at the moment of orgasm, and of course, woman's levels of natural lubrication can vary wildly)

It sounds as though you think that women's arousal and orgasm works the same way a man's does. Men ejaculate to aid sperm in their attempt to reach an egg. Women secrete to aid arousal and sexual intercourse. As such women produce wetness from the start of arousal without necessarily having an orgasmic gush, whereas men remain mostly dry until the moment of orgasm.

EricNorthmansMistress Fri 16-Sep-11 09:49:20

Sorry for <boggling> by the way.

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