We have been married for 7 years nearly and last year I was hard work with depression and anxiety until I went to see a councillor regarding being abused as a child,
It had effected everything from my mood to our sex life and even though I'm not completely better the changes are amazing,I am also seeing life differently that things like a spotless house is not the end of the world anymore! But my hubby thinks I'm slacking with everything to a point he's saying things like ‘and what the hell have you done all day while I've been at work?' I mean really what have you done’ it makes me feel terrible as I am trying to find that balance that my therapist says to find and not be possessive about the cleaning as it was over lapping with the sexual abuse for the need to keep clean! And in the other sence I'm making my hubby unhappy with the house being upside down,
His new dig at me this morning is that I've asked him that I would like to go home and visit my cousin for a night out with the girls which I have not done since we met, and have never done or gone anywhere without him since we met,, we live three hours away from each other,as I moved away when I met my hubby, in his words ‘ I'm a bit pissed off with the fact your going home for a weekend and I'm not invited? And are we one of those couples know? Right ok we will be one of those couples know!! Were we go places without each other’? I mean what married woman with kids goes away without her family at the weekend?’there it is,he says! I was asked to go to vagas and I'm not going, (I said I didn't mind if he went because I know I can trust him,but I would be worried about him) and I said that I wasn't stopping him, and he said but I have the respect for you not to go,which really hurt as I care truely about his feelings otherwise I would of told him I was going instead of asking, did he mind,! He also said that he thought he would go see my therapist as well as he only knows one side of the story! I felt like he thinks my therapy was all me moaning about him, and it wasn't! Yes I spoke about our sexual relationship to better it as due to the abuse as a child made me see sex as awful thing! And how I can make things easier for him whilst I was going through it! But that was it, I knew he wasn't being normal with me I knew something was annoying him like work! I had a feeling by his behaviour all week! Am I being inconsiderate and selfish?
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Am I being inconsiderate?
Shoni · 13/09/2011 11:24
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