There is a man who I know 'likes' me in that way. He is married and I suspect a serial philanderer. I am very, very, happily married and absolutely in love with my amazing husband.
So why do I occasionally find my mind wandering to this man, and making an extra effort with my appearance when I know he is going to be around? I have tried giving myself a stern talking-to but its been going on for months now and I don't seem to have snapped out of it yet.
Well you must be enjoying the attention, and as long as that's all it is no problem - I think you should start avoiding him though if you truly value this amazing husband as you say you do. Crushes do pass.
Think very seriously about what you stand to loose. Also how would you feel if your DH was behaving like this? Although nothing has yet happened, I suspect rather hurt. The grass is not always greener on the other side!
Nothing wrong with fantasising. Just don't act on it and if youcant trust yourself, stay away from him. It's all very exciting now, but seriously, it will only end with you in a pile of steaming s**t and everyone around you hurt.
If he's a serial philanderer, his attentions have nothing to do with your stunning beauty, magnetic personality or awe-inspiring intellect, and everything to do with him seeing you as shallow, easily manipulated and not worthy of the trust your amazing husband accords you.
Thanks all. Tianc, that was an excellent metaphorical boot up the bum! it's true, I really don't know why I find it flattering as I have no doubt that he tries the same caper with many other female acquaintances and that is nothing to write home about.
I do indeed have an awful lot to lose and I am very mindful of this.
I haven't said anywhere that I am flirting with him Pinky. Quite the opposite in fact as I am almost being a bit cold so as to not encourage him. I think it's quite clear from my OP that I am not enjoying feeling this way as my DH and I are very much in love so it feels alien to me to be thinking about another man. I am trying to get him out of my head.