Hi, I am 37 years old & 4 months pregnant, the pregnancy was'nt planned & came as a result of casual relationship. It was a mistake on my part as I got my dates wrong for my contraceptive injection, I am now happy about it & excited but the Dad is far from that!! I knew he would'nt be happy but his cruel attitude has shocked me, he simply refuses to acknowledge me (we are neighbours!!) & has not spoken to me for 10 weeks!! He can just walk right by me in the street & just look away. At 1st I was so hurt but now it just makes me angry & I am at the point where I can think oh well it's his loss but it is such a hard situation. Financially I can't afford to move home nor do I want to. Our last conversation he insisted no one was to know it is his baby & he does'nt not want to be on the birth cirtificate, I said I can't put his name on it if he is'nt there but I will not lie to the child & if the child comes looking for him in years to come he will have to deal with that, he said it's ok he will tell it to f@@@ off!!! I honestly thought he was just shocked & angry with me & would start to come round to the idea but he has'nt!! At 12 weeks I sent him a note asking him to think about things again as it looks like this is going to happen now I am 12 weeks, no reply!! I tx him a scan pic also no reply.. my dilema is this do I keep trying to raise his interest in this child or give up? From what he has told me about his parents they would be happy to have another grandchild he won't tell them but should I? I have tried so hard to keep things amicable but I am so hurt by his attitude do I have a right to be angry? He has 3 other children but they don't live locally he sees them a few times a year & I know he was devastated when the mum moved away with them, I do wonder if he is scared of getting attached to our baby & me doing the same but I have told him I would'nt & am a reasonable person & we could work out an arrangement where he could see the child whenever he wants etc.. I just want my child to have a Dad... What should I do?..my friends all seem to sit on the fence & say do what you think or give him time!! thanks :'(
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