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Is it harmful to orgasm too much?

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iuseinappropriategears Sun 11-Sep-11 14:00:29

Sorry I've looked everywhere for a 'sexual health' type forum. I have namechanged in case I offend.

I'm worried I orgasm too much and I might even be addicted to it. Penetrative sex always results in an orgasm and I would feel 'cheated' if it didn't. I don't think I would enjoy sex without the orgasm. I know that sounds selfish.

I thought this was the same for everyone until I spoke to a female friend a few years ago who said it was absolutely not normal to orgasm every time you have sex confused.

I'm also worried I'm addicted to masturbating. I've been doing it in some form since I was 13 but I don't know what is the normal age to start. I have days where I masturbate 3 or 4 times and again I orgasm every time. Sometimes I will avoid sex with my DH in preference of masturbating because it's just less messy and also in some ways more enjoyable blush. I think he is starting to realise that I am doing this.

Do you think I have a problem and how should I tackle it?

juneybean Sun 11-Sep-11 14:14:33

It's not abnormal to orgasm every time either... confused

ToPeeOrNotToPee Sun 11-Sep-11 14:15:51

Poor you.

stripeybump Sun 11-Sep-11 14:18:20

Of course it's not harmful! grin

Only worry if you're hurting from friction down there. Talk to your DH about it - I bet he'd be turned on by the idea. Perhaps engage in mutual masturbation?

Tortington Sun 11-Sep-11 14:18:39

practice makes perfect

Anniegetyourgun Sun 11-Sep-11 14:26:13

What's an orgasm?

babyhammock Sun 11-Sep-11 14:33:27

lol at Annie grin

MrsFlittersnoop Sun 11-Sep-11 14:36:05

I dunno Annie, have you tried asking yer husband?

It could be considered harmful in the sense that if too many of your female friends knew, they might want to beat you up.

There is no physiological reason why it might cause harm, except the afore-mentioned .. um ... friction burns wink, but if you don't feel lie full-on "messy" sex, mutual masturbation is great. Have you got any "toys"

To be brutally honest, I would only worry if the desire for an orgasm was getting in the way of daily life. If it's not, FLICK THAT BEAN!!!!

Anniegetyourgun Sun 11-Sep-11 14:37:25

My ex husband, would that be?


LeBOF Sun 11-Sep-11 14:39:35

Come again?

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy Sun 11-Sep-11 15:20:45

The only problem you've got is in your head, not in another part of your anatomy.

I'm curious why you should think that jerking off less messy than fucking? Is it because it involves less effort and is quicker?

buzzskillington Sun 11-Sep-11 15:24:47

I presume she meant the wet patch/jizz, izzy.

cecilyparsley Sun 11-Sep-11 15:34:22

I don't think I would enjoy sex without the orgasm. I know that sounds selfish lol, dont be daft how is that selfish...cant imagine a bloke saying that about sex!
I started DIY well before the age of 13, more like 7 or 8...I'm sure lots of people (male & female) find it a quicker way to get the job done wink

NewbeeMummy Sun 11-Sep-11 16:40:15

Completely normal, if DP and I have normal penetretive sex I can easily have 6-10 orgasms, if we (on the very rare occasion) have more than 30 minutes for sex, it can easily hit 20.

I find I have a fairly high sex drive, and will often masturbate if I'm not able to have sex with DP and he doesn't mind as long as I don't turn him down in favour of some me time.

As others have said the only issue is if you happen to hurt yourself through friction. I find I can get very light headed for about 30 minutes after a longer session, and have on occassion dislocated a toe blush during the intense muscle contractions.

Enjoy it and count yourself lucky - I have friends who have never had an orgasm in their life.

sayithowitis Sun 11-Sep-11 17:05:35

Actually, I don't think your problem is the amount of times you masturbate, IMO, it is the fact that you are turning your DH down because you prefer to fly solo. Having read many threads on here where the woman is suffering emotional pain because her partner is masturbating in preference to having sex, I would say you need to look at your relationship to see if there are any other issues behind this.

AnyFucker Sun 11-Sep-11 19:06:39

stealth boast

buzzskillington Sun 11-Sep-11 19:09:07

I don't think it classes as stealthy, AF grin.

SarahStratton Sun 11-Sep-11 19:18:27

Unstealthy boast then.

envy envy envy

AnyFucker Sun 11-Sep-11 19:46:07

completely show-offy boast then ? grin

SarahStratton Sun 11-Sep-11 19:53:43

That will do. grin

Still envy though.

AnyFucker Sun 11-Sep-11 19:56:23

hey sarah, is our other thread still going ?

not checked in for a while blush

Of course its not harmful. Hairy hands are perfect for the colder winter months.

AnyFucker Sun 11-Sep-11 20:19:20


keep on truckin'

SarahStratton Sun 11-Sep-11 20:47:05


Which one AF? So many threads, so little time. Although I do my very best to spend all day on here.

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