quick question and wondered if anyone here has advise:
H is verbally abusive. he is controlling me financially. he is controlling when I leave the house, whom I see... etc. I have posted here before (under different name). H is just mean and does anything to make me feel down and upset.
I finally have decided that I had enough. and I want H to leave. but, he is won't. he tells me to go if I don't like it anymore.
problem is: we have 3 dc, our middle child has SN. I don't have family in the uk (so nobody to join in the short term) and I only work p/t (all of which goes towards childcare, but work keeps me sane). DC are between 11 month and 5 years and as said, DC2 has SN which make it impossible to work full time and to pursue a career to better us financially :/ I have no savings either. nothing. not a single pound.
H does not earn very well either (just above 20k); i.e. I don't expect much in terms of maintenance (and I would have to battle it out, I am sure he won't be very forthcoming with his £££)
we live our own house (well, we have a big mortgage). mortgage is in joint names.
just wonder how to I go about? as said, I want separation but can't pack and move out but H won't budge either and wants me to move out.
any advice as to how to get rid of him?
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I (+ 3 DC) want to separate but H refuses to move out...
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tiredgingerbabe · 07/09/2011 23:25
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