Again good for you!!! I have also been there, only advice I would give is please stay strong, you seem very head strong in your decision now, a word of warning, you will come across times, when you do not feel so strong, and doubt whether your doing the right thing. Perhaps write a pros of leaving him, and every time you feel yourself weaking, look at the list
You are at the start of a long but very rewarding road. Nobody deserves to be treated badly. If he isn't fighting more for you that really says it all. Be kind to yourself and well done for having the resolve to do this.
morrissey have you tried the Freedom Programme? It's free and designed to help women get over the aftermath of abusive relationships.
Regarding the new women in our abusive exes' lives: I understand the urge to warn them. But ask yourself: would you have believed anyone who tried to warn you off your ex at the start of your relationship -- particularly his previous wife or girlfriend? Sadly, the new women will only learn from their own mistakes, just as we did.
My only hope is that somebody in stbxh's entourage tells any new woman: "Can you believe that bitch Puppy set the police on stbxh for domestic violence?", and hope that that sets alarm bells in new woman's mind, or a note for future reference once he starts up on her.
morrisseysquormince I know exactly what you mean by worried for new his new partner
Even when I came home to visit family, and would see her in the street/shop, she would be giving me daggers [probably jealousy/ her partners ex etc]. I still then, could not help but feel sorry for her. A silly girl thinking she knows him better than me,having had a few months relationship with him, she was certain he was not violent, and it was all in my head,fast-forward 5 years, and for her a few hospital visits later.
Funny though,3 years ago I moved back to the area, knew he would leave me be as him and girlfriend had a baby.It was quite clear he has moved on, and he would leave me alone
First year or so, his P, was still wary of me, usual daggers/looks when she would see me, now, she smiles and says hello, even sent me a friend request on FB