My parents are both in their 80s. Dad has always been controlling, rigid and anxious but he's become a hundred times worse in the last few months and been diagnosed with severe OCD; he's getting treatment in the form of therapy and medication but won't take some of his medication or help himself and instead whines like a child. My mum is co-dependent and he treats her like a doormat and she now has no life of her own. She's a good woman and I love her but she enjoys being a martyr and won't stand up to him.
I do what I can to help, phone every day, offer to help with the doctors etc but feel like I'm getting nowhere. One minute mum can't take it any more and wants me to step in and then it's "not that bad really". I've always had a fraught relationship with dad who never showed me or my brothers any real kindness, and I'm beginning to dislike him intensely. I feel that maybe it's best that I just don't get that involved; I'll carry on phoning every day and offering practical help but as they won't listen to my suggestions for getting him better/mum being more assertive with him, I might as well stop trying on that score. It makes me feel disloyal but what else can I do? Anyone been in a similar situation?
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MrsMiniver · 06/09/2011 08:21
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