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Is he just a twat sent to confuse me?

(9 Posts)
PenelopePitstops Sun 04-Sep-11 17:14:50

After reading nearlysprings post I wondered if anyone could shed any light on this bloke. I now have a partner (who is not said bloke). We met at uni 3 years ago, he is 8 years older than me and almost instantly we hit off a very sparky friendship. Lots of flirting etc but nothing more as he has a girlfriend. Went on a very boozy night out and ended up sleeping with him (please don't flame me, i was single at the time).

Flirting continued and a few odd texts here and there but no more action. Christmas he walks me home and tells me how amazing i am, he would rather be with me etc and went in for the kiss. I walked away, didn't feel the same and didn't want to compound my mixed emotions.

Saw him almost daily for the past 2 years at uni then went away for the summer and went on a night out. Everyone else went home and it was just the two of us, at which point he says he needs to speak to me. Said he'd possibly cheated on his girlfriend again and was so drunk he couldn't remember. I asked why he was telling me this and he replied 'well sleeping with you was different but this time i needed to tell someone'. He then proceeded to hold my hand for the rest of the night, and we danced a lot.

Don't really know what to do or say with him. We get on fantastically well, I go through phases of thinking he's a complete arse through to enjoying his company and the 'relationship' we have.

LynetteScavo Sun 04-Sep-11 17:21:26

Don't be confused.

He is a twat.

Be friendly with him.

Don't sleep with him again, or get into any relationship with him other than friendship.

HerHissyness Sun 04-Sep-11 17:25:15

Twat is the word I'd start with for this bloke!

Stay well clear! He IS a complete ARSE!

Xales Sun 04-Sep-11 17:29:49

Yuck

You don't have a 'relationship'. He has a relationship with his girlfriend of 3+ years. You are a convenient shag/flirt when she is not around and he is bored/lonely.

Why don't you get rid of this friendship and look for a decent man who doesn't have a girlfriend?

PenelopePitstops Sun 04-Sep-11 17:33:47

xales yes i know we dont have a relatioship, friendship is probably the better word.

writing it all down has made me realise he is a twat.

PenelopePitstops Sun 04-Sep-11 17:34:25

I have my own fabulous partner who is amazing, i think its a case of the grass not being any greener.

AnyFucker Sun 04-Sep-11 21:48:22

this bloke is a player...accept this and cut him out of your life

if you have anything more to do with him, after realising this, you are very foolish

mynewpassion Mon 05-Sep-11 01:56:51

You know he's a twat and a cheater but what I don't get it is this: you have a great boyfriend and why are you wasting your time holding hands, dancing the night away with this other guy, and questioning if he's confusing you?

Just re-read your last post again. So you were thinking of him being more than just a friend.

I think you need to be his friend only and cut all the line crossing things that might jeopardize your relationship with your bf. Tell him that if he can't be faithful to his gf, he should re-think their relationship.

pchip Mon 05-Sep-11 02:51:25

Classic "bad boy" who's making you think maybe you're "the one" special enough to turn him around into a "good guy". Nah, he'd cheat on you too.

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