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been texting a guy but hes now ignoring me

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saladsandwich · 01/09/2011 10:23

i've been single 18months and i've finally started feeling ready to date again, been texting and chatting to a guy for a week, all of a sudden he's ignoring me?

i dont think i've done anything to offend him or put him off, does this mean he's not interested? he seemed really keen, i texted him last so i'm not texting him again and he's been on facebook and ignored me on there.... think i'll just put it down to experience but i do think it's rude, if he's not interested why doesn't he just say or make an excuse?

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lubeybooby · 01/09/2011 10:25

This is very common with internet dating. Rubbish but that's the way it is!

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nenevomito · 01/09/2011 10:25

Because he's a knob.

Harsh if you've only just decided to get back into dating again, but at least you find out now.

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glitch · 01/09/2011 10:31

What an idiot. You are better off without him. Move on and find someone much nicer.

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saladsandwich · 01/09/2011 10:34

thanks, honestly find it odd :/ was wondering if someone had been stirring, im not too bothered just annoyed haha

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MiraNova · 01/09/2011 10:41

He's probably been texting someone else as well, and is now seeing her instead. If things don't work out with her, he'll probably get back in touch with you, with an excuse about how busy things have been. Walk away, you are definitely better off without him.

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acrunchieandacupoftea · 01/09/2011 10:44

If you're internet dating, try talking to a number of different ppl at a time, or at least assume the other party is.

If they disappear suddenly they've probably been on a good date and don't want to continue talking.

Or they've realised they don't want a relationship they just want fun dates and sex! Or i'm sure there are other possibilities... Smile don't take it personally.

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wannaBe · 01/09/2011 10:48

how long has he been ignoring you though? hours? days? weeks? Because there is a difference. If hours could be busy/might just want to cool it/just has other things to do. If days then probably not that into you, if weeks, well then it ain't gunna happen..

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AMumInScotland · 01/09/2011 11:16

You also need to watch out for the "Treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen" mentality - some men are manipulative and switch from hot to cold to keep you on your toes. If you welcome him back with open arms after he's distant for a while, it can make him think you're desperate enough to put up with being treated badly.

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cyb · 01/09/2011 11:17

He's just not that into you

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cyb · 01/09/2011 11:18

(but don't take that as a criticism of you, cos its not)

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adamschic · 01/09/2011 11:23

Have you even met him? If not,don't take it personally, he is more interested in someone else or just cannot be bothered. You are just a photo and some words on a screen atm and so is he.

I hate internet dating tbh so have a massive downer on it.

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levantine · 01/09/2011 11:24

There is a book of that title that's meant to be quite good (He's Just Not That Into You)

Move on, no point in trying to mind read/second guess/make excuses. Internet dating is a pretty harsh game

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elastamum · 01/09/2011 12:38

Have done lots of internet dating - met my lovely BF online about 6 months ago.

Dont waste your time with anyone who's behaviour isnt spot on. Men are supposed to be on their best behaviour when they first meet you as they want to impress. If it isnt great then, it wont get any better and tells you everything you need to know about them.

Just move on. There are lovely men out there but you need to keep looking. Remember. It is supposed to be fun Grin

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ChizChizChiz · 01/09/2011 15:55

What elastamum says.

I've had plenty of good/bad/indifferent internet dates. My sole rule now is 'if it's not easy, it's not right'. If you have to spend time worrying about whether he's into you or not, he's not, because if he is he'll make it very clear.

I've met someone lovely now. He was lovely from Day 1. Move on - and better luck next time Grin

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saladsandwich · 01/09/2011 17:39

thanks alot, he's a friend of a friend, i think i've found out the reason though he isn't interested anymore, he seems unkeen on people who don't work... but onwards and upwards :) going out next week for the first time in ages so i'm all excited for that :D

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LittleHousebytheRiver · 01/09/2011 17:52

There is a funny book by Sean Thomas about internet dating called A Million Women are Waiting to Meet You which gives the bloke's perspective. It is very frank and funny and taught me a lot.

Just write him off and keep trying. You will get more confident and less invested in each contact with a bit of experience, and be able to bin the ones that don't treat you properly.

Have fun! (And report back on next week!!)

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saladsandwich · 01/09/2011 18:31

lol i will do thanks, i had a sort of idea he was abit of a player but then it seemed all front once i got talking to him, will listen to my first instinct next time i think... not lost anything though, i was just thought i'd done something wrong with him going from i fancy you, mwah mwah mwah to ignoring me odd :/

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saladsandwich · 01/09/2011 22:02

well now im confused, hes randomly stuck on my facebook wall "night X" go i really dont understand men at all arghhhh big PITA's

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