Hello, I?m a 31 year old male and have had one major relationship which lasted from when I was 21 through to 28. It didn?t end through any big reason, but I think we just grew apart. I do partially relate it though to when I was around 27, me and my ex-partner moved for work to a small town a long way from out friends and family, and we felt isolated and we started to argue more and more, my partner was depressed for a while and we eventually fell out of love.
Fast forward to now. I?ve been seeing a partner for a year who would like me to move in with her. Trouble is, she lives 35 miles from my work in a small town and I fear the same situation ? being isolated in a small town, away from my friends in the city I live in. My partner, understandably, wants me to move in and sees it as a sign of my commitment and I?m stalling. The question arises is whether I?m being a man-child, scared of commitment, or whether there?s something deeper that makes me sense we?re not right for each other.
I know that ultimately only I can really answer this one, but I?d welcome a female perspective.
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Commitment-phobe or are we not right for each other?
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scaredofcommitment · 30/08/2011 10:15
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