Evening all! Well the title says it all. She is (she is 29 btw) in the middle of very messy break up with long term boyfriend (7 years) and they are battling over house (have mortgage), dogs etc and she found out last week she was 8 weeks pregnant. Poor girl had no idea when she last had sex or last had a period and was in utter disbelief that she could be pregnant. He has emotionally abused her for years and been so cruel so there is no hope of a reconciliation.
She has an abortion planned next Monday. I am just struggling to hide my feelings about it all, what with having 2 dc, one only 6 months. I went with her to all the appointments and also to dating scan
I can see that she needs to get her own life back on track before bringing another into the world but her occasional coldness really upsets me. She is taking sleeping tablets and when I suggested they might harm baby she said well it doesn't matter if I am not keeping it.
She is in bits over it all and I am trying to just be there for her. I have always thought I was ok with abortion until now. I just can't help but think about this doomed little life. I know this is totally unhelpful and of course haven't voiced it. She must be going through hell but it is so hard to be objective.
Going to the appointment and listing to the consent being read out was horrific, something I wouldn't wish on anyone. My Sister just seems like a child herself (she is, I am not being nasty here- she can barely cope with life) I can certainly see that it isn't a decision that anyone can make lightly. I am going with her next week I think unless my Mum can summon the strength so I need to get my feelings in check so I am a proper support to her
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Sister having abortion next week- not sure how best to support her
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cheekymonk · 28/08/2011 19:50
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