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Husband signed up for speed date

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sassyminder Wed 24-Aug-11 00:43:16

He just done it this afternoon
I am not mad nor sad, just thinking how childish it is
He got an new iphone and have been playing with this for the last week so I guess he just runned out of apps and tried this one?
I know the reasons, I know I am cold and we both know I am not interested in sex at all for a long time and this makes him hurt and angry. We also both know that I didn't even wanted a marriage but done so for the sake of the child that came by surprise...but we are quite open and honest to each other so him dating online came as a big surprise.
Believe or not, he always ignored computers, internet, relatonship sites and he never had an email until few months ago when I created one for him as he was looking for a new job so he needed one email address. Up until the last week I was responsible for checking his emails as he was not inetrested at all even though I was pushing him to get online. He just learnt how to use his email because he needed this for his iphone. And today at lunch time I was talking to the agent responsible for the flat we were renting (he was beside me) and we were discussing the payiment of our deposit, so the agent said she sent an email to my husband and he said he never received it, so I told him I would check properly tonight. So he knew I would check his emails tonight and went there and signed up for a dating site in the afternoon....does he want me to see it, or was just naive??
Should I confront or just pretending I dont know nothing??
Gues it is better than using porno as he liked it and had loads od dvds before it, but now dont do it anymore....is playing dating online a scapism??

GypsyMoth Wed 24-Aug-11 00:45:24

Well he's looking for an affair or a relationship, clearly.

sassyminder Wed 24-Aug-11 01:15:20

huuum. so what to do now? confront or let he do what he want to do and see how it goes? he clearly cant blame me if I confront him as he knew I was gonna check his emails sooner or later...
Cant be bothered to have another fight to be honest as we have been fighting for the smallest things, he has been on holidays for long and we did not go anywhere, just moving home, hoovering around, so very boring and stresseful times

thesunshinesbrightly Wed 24-Aug-11 02:21:03

I don't understand why the two of you are together.

This relationship doesnt sound fun at all.

sassyminder Wed 24-Aug-11 02:32:13

no it is not but we have few reasons to be together but it is too late to explain right now

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