is this normal?

[Bronte]

DP has just thrown all his evening meal in bin cos DD 6 years coughed over it without covering her mouth. She's now upset and i can't face eating anything.

[EternalPie]

I would have done the same as your DP.

But then I am arsey about stuff like that.

[DontGoCurly]

It'd take a lot more than that to put me off my food but people are different.....

Was there anything visible or was it just the fact she coughed ?

[Bronte]

Just the cough. I think you're right EP. He's just arsey as well! I just see it as a complete OTT over reaction. Maybe it's not?

[perfumedlife]

Well, unless he is demanding a whole new dinner, it's his to do with as he pleases. I wouldn't eat it either. I would be miffed, especially as I drill the coughing manners into ds and it was avoidable. He's just hungry and hacked off.

[kayah]

Does he think that whathever germs she soughet up aren't in the air in the same room as the coughing happened?

[overmydeadbody]

No it's not normal.

[ScarlettIsWalking]

I would have done the same - sorry but hand covering mouth when coughing esp at the table in front of food is something DD knew at 3 yo.

[Shinyshoes1]

its a cough and it's his daughter I'm assuming she hasn't got tuberculosis

People act too precious these days and waste too much food.

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

It's your dh's job to teach his dd to cover her mouth when she coughs, so he's failed in that respect hasn't he?

It's his dinner though to do what he wants with.

Did you cook it or did he? I bet it was you.

[PuppyMonkey]

No, not normal IMHO. Kids are kids, they sometimes make mistakes. Obviously not Scarlet's 3 yo but, you know, lots of others.

[CalamityKate]

Oh diddums. He can't have been that hungry. What would he have done if, say, your daughter had coughed in his face when she was a baby? Washed his face in bleach?

[babyhammock]

How pathetic of him... what's he like the rest of the time?

[Bronte]

Perfumed life seems to have a good take on it. It was just the dramatic way he had to demonstrate food going into bin! It was nothing elaborate by the way.. a jacket spud with bacon and salad!!

[Spellcheck]

Yes it's his dinner to do with as he wishes...but perhaps a more tactful approach would have been best? She's only 6, and probably really hurt! I think it was out of order - but then I'm a softie and hate seeing children upset by adults. They see things so differently to us. Hope she's ok now!

[mrsravelstein]

honestly i think it's bordering on creepily horrible to have reacted like that. bloody hell, ds1 has thrown up in my face and i didn't tell him off for that.

[RubyLT]

My DH would have done the same thing.

[Chummybud1]

I think it's overboard. She is only little and is now upset, he should have done it discreetly but explained that she must cover her mouth and made himself a sandwich.

[solidgoldbrass]

Is your H someone who is particularly picky over food or squeamish about germs? If so, then there is some excuse for his behaviour; some people are really oversensitive about this sort of thing (and TBH generally sholdn't be allowed to eat in company and/or given a swift kick up the ringpiece if they start performing, anyway).
If he isn't normally like this, then his behaviour is a nasty, spiteful, attention-seeking piece of bullying, meant to upset and guilt-trip a six-year-old far more severely than a moment's carelessness deserves.

[SheCutOffTheirTails]

I agree with mrs - that is a horrible way to treat a 6 year old child.

[DuelingFanjo]

"It was just the dramatic way he had to demonstrate food going into bin! It was nothing elaborate by the way"

it's not the fact he did it that is wrong but the way he did it. He wanted to punnish her by the sound of it, by being a dog in a manger. Not nice IMO.

[LesserOfTwoWeevils]

No, it's not normal. Nasty. There were plenty of tactful ways he could have explained to her what she should have done and discreetly disposed of his dinner without upsetting her.

[bejeezus]

yes- agree with others. If he was REALLY repulsed he should have just left it or thrown it away discreetly, not used it to punish her

id be cross

spit in his tea

[ThePosieParker]

Is he her Dad?

[elastamum]

FGS! You all live in the same house, you swap germs all the time. If she spat in his dinner it wouldnt mean he would be any more likely to catch anything. In our house you can eat anything, provided you get to it before the dog does. I'm a healthcare scientist BTW

[Hardgoing]

Over-reaction. I might say (in a loud voice) 'oh, cover your mouth, you've just coughed on my food' and look a bit annoyed, but the moment would pass, hopefully they would apologise immediately and you could all move on. Doing a big dramatic throw-away just prolongs the whole thing,

However, if he's very squeamish, and not usually prone to making her upset, I'd let it go too. Perhaps she will think twice next time and you do have to learn as a child that even adults are a bit twattish sometimes.