I want to end something which is not quite a relationship yet, but which has gotten physical. The woman is a nice person and I feel bad about it. We have only been out 5 or 6 times but I don't feel about her how I think she may feel about me. I don't think I want to do this by text, or by disappearing. Would a phone call be acceptable?
As someone who has been dumped by text I would strongly suggest you take the more noble option and explain your feelings to her face to face. Then don't sleep with her any more. (Not suggesting you would, but we all know there are men who want to have their cake and eat it)
I'm sorry. I know 'dump her' sounds shit, but that's what I'm doing. And I know I shouldn't have slept with her if this is what I was going to do. Feel like a kunt really. Think I'll stop doing things like this.
A very nice man once took me out for lunch to dump me, it was really awful. I hated being surrounded by strangers having a good time when, despite his best intentions, I felt humiliated and miserable. I think a phone call can be kinder sometimes.
Yes phone her, be tactful, and honest. Sometimes from a female perspective its nice if the guy says ometing like, "I am really sorry, I dont want to mess you about, you are really nice, (etc etc) but I think probably not going to work etc..."
FGS, dont take her out, she will want to get as far away from you as possible. just phone her, early evening when you know she isnt doing anything else. And maybe dont rush to sleep with women who you are not sure you really like.
I once went out with a bloke who dumped me after the event, as we had each others stuff to return. Surprisingly we had an absolute blast and at the end of the eveing he said he realised how he enjoyed my company and lets meet again as friends - I didnt though, as I didnt really need another friend like him
Have you actually asked her how she feels? Nothing worse than someone 'dumping' you for having feelings that you really don't have. Fair enough if you don't want to continue regardless, but I'd be sure to stick to that rather than mention what you think she might feel.
I'd be glad if she didn't 'like' me. But I think, from some of the things she has said, that she does. She told me she had removed her online dating profile and told a bloke she was going to meet that she'd met someone and was going to see how that went. I don't think I've led her on. We have only really met up once every couple of weeks and I only exchange the odd text.
Tell her straight away, phone might be best - mid way between text (crap) and face to face (possibly a bit excruciating for her). Just say it isn't working out for you, you like her but you know a relationship between you wouldn't work so you are coming clean before there is any more involvement.
Nothing wrong with feeling the way you do, just be respectful and honest. You don't have to dress anything up with excuses because you are perfectly entitled to feel the way you do.
Be unavailable for her birthday so you don't ruin it and then do as others have suggested; drop by her house with little notice (maybe send a text saying you are nearby and can you pop round for a coffee?) and then tell her it's not working out. Good luck