Hi
I've posted re my situation a few times, brief back ground (I'll try to be brief)
H and I married 10 years (together 14) 3 DC'S - 25yrs (from my prev relationship) 11 yrs & 7 yrs. Our relationship over the past 2 years hadn't been great but I felt it was ok and we'd work through things. H on the other hand decided he wanted out. May 2010 I found out he had rented a flat and intended to leave me. He rented it from Feb 2010 but he never left until I found out in the May, this resulted in a big row and basically I told him to leave, he did but came back the following week and we both said we would work at things. Things were never really the same though. I had loads of things going on in the weeks that followed him coming back, My mum had a bad fall that resulted in her being in hospital for 4 months, this brought on dementia (she was being assesed for this before the fall but the shock of the fall made it so much worse,) while in hospital she was tested for lung cancer they were certain she had it as a solid mass showed up in her lung. We were told if it was cancer they would not be able to do much due to the state of her lungs (heavy smoker) Thankfully the mass shrunk and she is ok.
Also my dad died, he had estranged from the family for 20 odd years but even so I took it bad. I founf out when I opened my mums mail there was a letter from the pensions authority saying sorry to hear about the death of your husband - it was such a shock. Because of this i suppose I was not focused on fixing my marriage (having to work and visit hosp sort mums house out etc). Anyway Fast forward to end 2010 H was a misery I couldn't do anything right, I knew he regretted coming back. He was away on business loads (travels the world) anyway Feb 2011 he was on a business trip, I call his mobile get on to his voice mail? message from a letting agency regarding the property he had rented - he had done it again only this time a 3 bedroom house. So that was that he never came home. Turns out he has a GF she practicaly moved in with him. But we went to councelling and talked of getting back together but he would not give her up until he was sure we would work out. Anyway the last couple of months he has changed getting back together no longer an option. Found out last week he has bought a house (2 miles from family home) with his GF and she is pregnant. Part of me hates him, but now I'm starting to think If we had worked harder at things (not just in the last couple of years) maybe things would have been different. I know he really loved me - what made him stop - I wish I could go back in time and stop all this mess from happening. I can't believe this has happened. He still wants us to be friends - but I can't accept this total betrayal.
Sorry rambling - my head is all over the place x
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steelchic · 15/08/2011 01:53
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