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Had an awful and wierd date last night. Confidence blown.

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PoorMeAnother · 14/08/2011 18:50

Sorry I am a regular poster but this was just too embarrassing and have name changed. Will change back after.

Some of you may recognise me, divorced 2 years, seperated 3. Ex was emotionally and occasionally physically abusive and I have been single ever since. Only just after having spoken on here about gettingback in the dating scene have I plucked up the courage to get out there again. Because of my work I don't meet many people so joined a dating website. Got talking to a bloke who seemed great and after much deliberation I agreed to meet him. Idea was that we'd meet for a quick drink and if all was ok there we'd go to cinema and maybe for a bite to eat afterwards.

So we meet for a drink, I liked him straight away, he was kind, funny and good looking. We had one drink each and then headed for the cinema. He bought us both a bucket of popcorn each. We sat down then it all descended into what I imagined to be a candid camera show. The first advert came on and he dug his hands into popcorn and threw a huge handful of it in his own face I asked why he'd done that and he said very loudly "I fucking love the stuff" before doing it again. I just looked away and started eating my own popcorn (was feeling uncomfortable at this point and just wanted to do something with my hands iyswim?) and he started making OTT chomping and slurping noises and then started grunting and shoving huge handfuls of popcorn into his mouth so bits were falling out as he couldn't shut his mouth and then he started making ridiculous burps (tongue hanging out, eye wide etc) and everyone kept turning around to laugh at him. So I was just about to set a fake call on my phone to get out of it and he seemed to calm down and stopped doing it and sat really quiet and started eating properly. I went to the toilets, called my friend and told her what he'd been doing and she said he was probably just nervous and trying to make me laugh and I should give him another chance. I went back in and he was still acting normal. The film finished. We went outside and he was asking where I wanted to go for something to eat, I was still considering calling it a night at this point but reluctantly agreed to go across the road to a little pub place that served food. We got in there, started up convrsation with a waitress who said she was going to see the film we'd just seen and he said "oh I'll save you the bother - " and spoilt the entire story.

Anyway to top it all off the meal arrived and he picked up his chicken breast, started making chicken sqwarking noises with it and then chucked the full thing onto the table beside us and said he was going to complain as it was still alive and flying around. I made excuses and left quickly. Got home, called my friend and just burst into tears I now feel I'm so bloody hidious that all I'll ever attract is wierdos and freaks. I'm also concerned that this guy knows where I live and I'm frightened he really is nuts.

I don't know whether to take my profile off the site (PoF for those that know it) , report him to the site (although I don't know what I'd actually report him for) or sign up somewhere else or simply just forget the whole thing.

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buzzsore · 14/08/2011 18:57

Really?

Um, well, he sounds like he has a very odd sense of humour or that he was doing it for a bet.

If he gets in touch, tell him you're not interested.

I shouldn't think he's a stalker or dangerous, but be prepared to report him if he bothers you.

Don't be put off by this guy, I reckon in a while you'll laugh about it. It'll be a funny story to tell.

Just make sure you don't tell people where you live too soon next time.