I really need some perspective/different viewpoints on how to handle my relationship with my sister which is now at breaking point....I hope some wise MNers can help me!
My younger sister and I haven't spoken for a couple of months, there are no signs of any thawing of relations and my family are getting upset. It is on the verge of turning into a serious problem. It all kicked-off when my sister visited us when I was 37 weeks pregnant and we had a row (we were both in the wrong, I apologised but she went home anyway). We haven't spoken since even though I have since given birth. She did send a present to us but apparently I was too slow in thanking her (2 days...um was a bit distracted by the newborn baby) so she is 'never sending anything again'. I send photos of the baby but she doesn't reply to the emails.
She thinks it is my fault and I need to apologise (even though I have, she denies it). She doesn't think she needs to apologise to me. Meanwhile she is missing out on seeing her niece and I am furious that she is putting a downer on such a happy time for the whole family.
This all follows years of the whole family pandering to my sister because she is single, has no friends and is always ill with something. She is probably annoyed that I'm not ringing every few days to enquire about the progress of her latest period of being poorly. I am constantly torn between feeling desperately sorry for her (and giving in whenever there is an argument/issue) but also being at the end of my tether with her. I have never met someone who expects so much from other people without giving anything in return.
Has anyone else experienced a situation like this? What should I do? Do I forgive her bad attitude - probably caused by jealousy? Or accept that a more distanced relationship will mean I am less wound up and happier? All advice gratefully received!
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pinkbabygrow · 12/08/2011 15:29
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