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pathetic question.

(27 Posts)
stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:06:50

So....I cant believe I am asking this but anyways. There is someone I am...interested in and him me. We ended up having a 'night' together last week which was...amazing. Anyhow. He wants to come over tonight and see me. Great, would love to see him but...I suspect things could end up going in the same direction as last time....and its that time of the month for me. I dont know whether I should mention. I dont want him to think I only want to see him if we can get it on grin but also dont want the embarressment of having to say to him should he come over and....yeah. I am so rubbish at this new 'thing' stuff. Feel free to laugh at me.

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:10:28

oh look I am so twatty I didnt actually ask any question. Should I say anything?

nickschick Tue 09-Aug-11 20:11:46

Well he can still come over,you can have a chat have a laugh have a smooch its not all about sex.

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:13:18

well exactly. Thats my thinking. I dont really see him outside of work and would love to spend time with him just chatting etc. If it turns out he is only coming over for one thing, then I know where I stand dont I?

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:13:40

though will feel a right fool. Ah the joys.

ImperialBlether Tue 09-Aug-11 20:14:21

So after the night you had together, how was it left? Is he a boyfriend or just someone who wants a shag? Have you spent a long time on the phone since the last night?

I wouldn't want him to have the expectation that something was going to happen, even if I hoped it would.

If you don't feel you know him well enough to say that without him misunderstanding you, do you know him well enough to sleep with him? <old woman emoticon!>

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:17:43

It was left with neither of us wanting to make any promises of anything serious but wanting to see each other again and see where things go. From both sides. I am not long separated and in no rush to go diving head first into another relationship, but happy to just see how things go. No expectations etc.

nickschick Tue 09-Aug-11 20:18:30

Even if you had sex within minutes of meeting him its not law that you will every time you see him ....... you might just enjoy each others company tonight,he might be a total fool and try to get to it straight away in which case you know straight away hes a knob can still 'fool' around though if you want to wink.

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:21:37

I didnt have sex within minutes of meeting him (just in my head grin) we work together and have been getting to know each other, just not outside of work until recently due to recent separation etc.

greycircles Tue 09-Aug-11 20:23:29

Just a consideration - some men and some women will happily have sex whilst period taking place. It sounds like you are not one of these, but bear in mind that he might not care if you are having a period!

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:26:12

oh here, I dont care! I quite like sex on my period. I dont know about him though. Got to admit, I am a tad hopeful. How bad am I? Cold shower time grin

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:27:15

but seriously, I would also love the time just to talk to him. I like talking to him too you know!

BertieBotts Tue 09-Aug-11 20:40:12

I think you should see him, and if he does come back, only mention it if things do start to get steamy. It's a good twat test! If he gets funny with you then you know he's a twat.

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:48:59

I will do the twat test I think. Will be...interesting!

feelingafailure Tue 09-Aug-11 20:52:57

think of if he wants to i see u or only if he wants his leg over.ask him round and have a nice cosy evening.might just be a bit messy.if he leaves u if u say not tonite.dont be treated like that\!!!

nickschick Tue 09-Aug-11 20:53:05

I wasnt saying having sex within minutes of meeting him was a bad thing .....indeed if it puts a smile on your face then grin.

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 20:58:19

grin grin grin

snoopdogg Tue 09-Aug-11 21:00:21

might be worth changing to the second best sheets - just in case grin

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 21:00:57

oh one can only hope. Perhaps I am the twat shock

solidgoldbrass Tue 09-Aug-11 21:04:44

ANother vote here for only mentioning that you are on the blob if his hand goes towards your knickers. Remember that plenty of men don't mind about this, and when you tell him, don't sound as though you are assuming he will immediately jump out of the window and run off howling, just be casual about it.

stayforthekids1 Tue 09-Aug-11 21:05:59

so can I just say, wait...wait...the painters are in. How are you at decorating?! grin

too corney? Yes. Okay.

BertieBotts Tue 09-Aug-11 21:16:30


You could put an old towel within reach of the bed, but strategically far away so it doesn't look like it's been placed there on purpose.

"Wrong time of the month" or "Awkward time of the month" are quite inoffensive phrases to use!

mumsamilitant Wed 10-Aug-11 20:52:54

Why does he have to "come over", can't he take you out to a nice little pub and then you can have a chat? As feel that's what you really want?

Blueberties Wed 10-Aug-11 20:58:10

Well I think he wants to have sex with you. I think the issue will come up. But what can you do? You can't say it on the phone.

nickschick Wed 10-Aug-11 21:32:30

I took it that op is a single parent and probably finds it easier to 'entertain' wink at home rather than in cosy little pubs grin.

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