sorry more a bit of a rant to help work this situation out..
I had a very small antenatal group and we meet up regularly at each others houses. One member of the group makes me feel excluded from conversations when we are together (eg her problems with BFing) and has become quite demanding in terms of what she wants out of our meet ups (eg doesn't want people round at hers because she wants DS to nap on his way over to someone else's house, wants lunch provided etc). I am heavily PG with DC2 and frankly do not have the energy to host everyone for more than a few hours.
She has also made quite barbed comments in the past about me saying that I had it easy with DS1 when in fact that is quite far from the truth. After I had DS1 I had to go back in to hospital the same night I was discharged by ambulance with a postnatal infection and needed a blood transfusion due to a post partum haemorrhage. So no I don't think I had it easy at all but I am not the kind of person to keep going on about it forever as I need to move on and not rehash it. But we all have to listen to her problems with BFing for months and the guilt of having to formula feed etc etc which I sympathise with but at the end of the day she had a healthy baby and she was ok. I managed to keep BFing through the infection and transfusion etc thanks to an amazing MW but was close to saying I couldn't keep going with it.
A few months ago I got quite upset about feeling excluded and deliberately got involved in other baby groups etc so as to reduce the times I would meet up with the antenatal group. This has definitely helped. However I now feel it may be time to cut this particular "friendship" completely as I am sick of being treated like this and of this person being rude and abrupt to me in my own home. Life is too short. My DH can't stand her either and feels she is manipulative and wants to be 'queen bee' of the group.
Has anyone else had a similar problem or has any advice as to dissolve this 'toxic' friendship?
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wheelshavefallenoffthebus · 08/08/2011 10:28
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