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I have 2 friends that I have been friends with for a couple of years. We met when our daughters started school and we live in the same estate. We've all always got on well and had regular nights out. Our daughters, although they have other friends at school, have always got on well together. One in particular I've been closest to, my DH and hers are friends now too, and we all went on holiday together, both families.
About 6 weeks ago, suddenly these two women stopped talking to me. I thought one was being quite off with me, then suddenly the other was a bit off, and the next thing they were totally blanking me on the school run in the mornings (we previously all walked together at times if we happened to be coming out of our houses at the same times). I tried several times to make conversation and they both ignored me, so I spoke to each of them separately (one by text, one on the phone, they wouldn't speak to me in person), and asked if I'd done anything to upset them. I got the answer I expected, "No, of course not". The one on the phone basically asked me why I was trying to cause aggro by asking if I'd done anything wrong, when of course I hadn't done anything wrong.
So I just carried on doing the school run as normal, and again got ignored by them both until the end of term. I went on holiday after the schools finished and I oddly got a text from each of them at a similar time saying "have a nice holiday". I mulled it all over on holiday and decided that their behaviour wasn't acceptable and I wasn't going to tolerate it and the friendships were over as far as I was concerned, but that I'd be polite and say "hello" but nothing more.
I got home from holiday and again got a text from them both at a similar time asking if i want a night out. I said that I'm busy for the next month or so as of course I don't want to go. It seems funny that they both text me at the same time whenever they text me. Then tonight I posted a FB status, which I rarely do really, and one of them made a horrible comment in reply to it.
I know I'm doing the right thing in not bothering with them now, and letting them get on with it but I do feel upset about the whole thing and am starting to doubt myself and think "Am I just a shit person that no one wants to be friends with?". I do have other friends, lots of them really, but this has knocked my confidence, and I worry that these are going to bitch about me at the school to other mums that I'm on friendly terms with and make school runs unpleasant for me. I really can't think of anything I could have done wrong. I've always been a good friend to them both IMO, and I feel that friendship effort has been 3-way, and that I've pulled my weight. Perhaps they just weren't really true friends to me in the first place?
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CallMeBubblesEverybodyDoes · 05/08/2011 23:12
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