Just need some quick advice...after 5 years of being single I am on the cusp of a new relationship. He's utterly lovely and I am really distracted (need tech to supply hearts just for me ) Anyhow, we are going on a first date after lots of messaging etc. We are just going out for the day and will need to go by train. As it's a first date I feel I should pay for myself but my friend who introduced us says that he will want to pay for everything... I am so new to all this and am not sure if I should just offer or even just book the tickets myself and tell him he can pay next time. What do you think? Am I being silly about this? I am not sure what the issue is with me and letting men pay for me....perhaps because I have always felt so independent and it's hard to let anyone else assume that role. I also feel that as I have no idea what his income is it would be a bit horrible of me to just let him pay if maybe he can't afford it.
Or am I over thinking this? Am going to make a picnic lunch to take with us and am looking forward to making some bits for that (way to a man's heart is through his stomach etc )
yes you are being a bit over the top tbh from your post, take a chill pill and dont seem too keen, have fun but dont fall over yourself trying to please him just beyourself ... and just see how it goes for paying for things ... if youre doing lunch i would expect him to chip in too. good luck
Nerve wracking huh! lol... As most said, just try to relax and see what happens. Im one of the old school and believe that the man should pay for most things. You've made the lunch so he should really take care of the rest in my book!!
ImperialBlether...i too work for the 'railways' and unfortunately, we do have to pay our fares; and it's a huge bone of contention for us...but i digress.
OP, bless your heart for being so excited about your date...enjoy it my lovely; but i just work on the assumption that i would take enough cash with you that you can (in all honesty) offer to go dutch or pay for some drinks, etc.
However. if he's a proper gent, he'll politely decline...but then i'm a bit old fashioned like that.