I have a (nearly) 20yr old DS. I split with his dad when pregnant, as his dad used to beat me up when drunk. My son did well, was very bright - passed his 11+, went to a good grammar school, did well academically etc.
When he was 13 his dad (who'd been diagnosed as a schizophrenic), attacked & raped me, hurt DS & threatened to kill us all. He went to prison for this, and was not allowed any contact with DS till he was 18.
DS went downhill. I tried to get counselling, went to CAMHS etc - which was s*it useless. I struggled with the attack as well. DS became increasingly violent & began to smash his room, my furniture, and punch me. I had a breakdown & was diagnosed with bipolar.
DS had a female friend, who he pulled a knife on - then immediately took a massive overdose. He continued to be violent towards me.
I met & married DH within a short time, and DS didn't move with us, instead moving in with my parents. He seemed fine, until he met a girl - and when their relationship ended he went beserk. He smashed my parents furniture, he got drunk every night, sounded nuts all the time. He was put on antipsychotics, but the drinking was still excessive.
He recently got a new GF & seemed better - but now they must have split up - he drunk 8 litres of cider tonight, smashed his room (with all my parents furniture in) and his XBox, his TV, his mobile phone, slashed his mattress, broke all the shelves & finally slashed his arms.
My parents called the police. They're taking him to hospital. I don't know what to do. My parents are refusing to have him back, and the police have said my address isn't suitable (nor would DH have DS here).
I have a 13 month old DD asleep upstairs, and I'm 25 weeks pregnant. I don't drive. The police are staying with DS until he's discharged (they handcuffed him), and I suggested he go to the psychiatric hospital (have tried to get his assessed there for ages). DH is reluctant to get DD up to take her out, and I'm not sure the police want me there anyway.
I just don't know... he's still my baby, and I feel that he thinks I've abandoned him - which I haven't, but obviously having him that unstable & around a baby is not good... I feel so wretched - I don't know what to do?
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justwanttobeleftalone · 04/08/2011 00:16
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