This is a very minor problem (compared to some) that I need to ask, and I?d like to apologise if up front this makes me sound like a pig. I?ve been seeing my girlfriend for about 9 months, and we get on well, we?ve been on holiday, although we don?t live together yet.
I have a problem that is probably related to a deeper problem, namely whether I love my girlfriend. I seem to spend a lot of time looking at other women (not in a lechy way), but rather I?ll be in a coffee shop and see a woman reading a book, and I wonder what it would be like with her, or in the shops, and think a woman has a nice smile, or whatever.
I?ve never been like this before with my ex-partners, I remember my first girlfriend, and not noticing other women for about the first three or four years of our relationship. Fundamentally, it makes me wonder whether I?m really in love with my girlfriend, and if I?m not, I should end it for her to find someone else.
What I confused about is whether I?m just being a neurotic worrier, or whether, I?m just not in love with her, that makes me think this about other woman? Have I just not got my head from a mind-set of being single, to someone in a relationship?
Any thoughts? I apologise again if I?m being a pig.
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Pathetic question from a man
NeuroticMan · 01/08/2011 16:34
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