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things getting on top of me

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hariboegg Mon 01-Aug-11 07:46:18

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hariboegg Mon 01-Aug-11 08:22:42

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Marshmallowflump Mon 01-Aug-11 08:23:09

No not trivial at all, YOU need to do what suits you , and get HIM to give you your OWn space , surely he realises if he rushes things with you he is just pushing you away,Glad you can reflect and realise you need the time ,you are doing really well post divorce and working and being a mum and trying to keep your friends network going, ALL these things are hard work , and to be valued. Talk to your new partner explain how you feel and if he is worth his salt he will wait until your ready to commit to the relationship, all the best to .

hariboegg Mon 01-Aug-11 08:30:39

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garlicbutter Mon 01-Aug-11 12:44:36

If you're explaining yourself, balancing your life (extremely well, by the sound of it) and taking his pov on board, then you're doing everything right. If he's still crowding you in spite of this, then he doesn't respect your feelings or your right to a full, balanced life. I know such things are hard to even think about when you're the midst of a lovely new relationship, but it's super-important! Keep listening to your instincts.

I hope it turns out he does respect you. If not ... well, you'll be even more pleased you've got a life of your own. Good luck smile

buzzsore Mon 01-Aug-11 13:09:23

If he's not willing to be patient, then he doesn't really have your best interests at heart. You've only been seeing each other three months - if he's pushing you and being too full-on, and if you're worried he'll go funny on you if you don't let him force the pace - those are not good signs, and even more reason to put the brakes on.

It should be fun when you do see him - and you should have other things going on in your life, as you do. Trust yourself, it sounds like you're in the right place with it. smile

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