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(d)h put me down and swore in front Mil

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doncaster1 Sat 30-Jul-11 21:51:41

Feeling really hurt by (D)h's behaviour. Today we went shopping and met MIl for lunch.
We had some big things to buy so mil took dc home in her car. It was a struggle to get things out of car and into garage. Dh was in a strop because garage was untidy. (Yes probably my fault as I hadn't got round to taking some things to tip and I had some emty boxes from my business too. He also made it clear that I wasn't unloading things properly.
This is not the only issue. I am feeling really unsupported at the moment. It was the inquest into my mum's death this week and he hasn't once asked if I am ok.
Really don't know why I am still with him.
I know I have let things slide abit recently but I am struggling to deal with a bereavement and the onset of the menopause.

NickRobinsonsloveslave Sat 30-Jul-11 22:45:29

You poor thing. Your DH sounds like mine, selfish, unthinking and just so wrapped up in himself so no thought for he hasn't asked you how you are considering your mum.
Did his mum not say anything about his behaviour, or is he a bit of a mummys boy?
Although I find it unnaceptable th

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Jul-11 22:57:47

I'm so sorry about your Mum doncaster.

I'm not excusing him, but if you've not said anything about how you're feeling, is it possible he might not want to bring the inquest up and upset you? Or could he believe that because you're not talking about it, you're coping?

It would be obvious to the rest of the world me someone going through such a lot, as you are, will need support and attention, but things can get lost when you're in a long term relationship with someone.

How did your MIL react when he put you down and swore at you in front of her?

It sounds appalling behaviour given what you've been through this week.

doncaster1 Sat 30-Jul-11 23:06:47

Mil just ignored it.

doncaster1 Sat 30-Jul-11 23:07:09

Thank you for your replies.

Jux Sat 30-Jul-11 23:14:05

What a lovely pair. I would sit him down tomorrow for a serious talk.

I'm sorry about your mum, it's very strange and unsupportive of your dh not even to ask. Tell him that;remind him that most people would be more supportive of their partners when they go through bereavement, perhaps he doesn't think he'd mourn much when his own mum dies?

lloyd1 Sun 31-Jul-11 18:27:07

So sorry for your loss. My dh is similar. I have read a similar thread today and they made a point about depression. I wonder if that is possible in your case and mine too.

ImperialBlether Sun 31-Jul-11 19:13:59

So sorry to hear about your mum, OP.

Sometimes it takes losing someone to make you realise how short life is.

Please, make sure you live it in a way that makes you happy.

Whatmeworry Sun 31-Jul-11 20:55:22

This is called a spat, not a relationship ending issue though. If you don't like the lack of support re Mum tell him what you want from him.

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