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am i going ga ga

(28 Posts)
rmabel Sat 30-Jul-11 14:50:10

my dh is addicted to fb i perhaps shouldnt have but i checked his history , every day for months a womans name appeared who we both know but only he is fb friends with . i questioned him about why he looked at her profile every day ,and he completley denied having done so .i then went to prove it by bringing up the history again but her name had disappeared how can this be ?
is there any way of getting it back ?

Feenie Sat 30-Jul-11 14:56:47

I don't know. Your story sounds exactly like another one which was deleted a couple of days ago, though.

GypsyMoth Sat 30-Jul-11 15:13:11

Checked what history on fb?

What has gone? Chat messages? Wall posts? Private messages?

rmabel Sat 30-Jul-11 15:47:54

sorry didnt make myself very clear, on the computer history ( while he was on fb) the people who he was either talking to ( or looking at their pictures ) names appear .This womans name was on there every day for months but now its gone.

TheOriginalFAB Sat 30-Jul-11 15:49:33

He seems to have something he wants to hide.

If you know her too why not ask her to be your friend? God, that sounds like you are all 5.

rmabel Sat 30-Jul-11 15:57:01

im sorry if this all sounds a bit silly but i am really upset a)because he denies all knowledge and b) i know what i saw and now its not there to prove it .

rmabel Sat 30-Jul-11 16:02:20

the thing is i am not hot on computers i dont know enough to restore deleted stuff .god this sounds ridiculous when i read it back but its really shaken me.

TheOriginalFAB Sat 30-Jul-11 16:06:18

God, no. I didn't mean you were all acting like you were 5. Sorry. I meant asking for someone to be your friend did. I was wondering about how you could go about finding out what has been going on without either of them hiding anything.

On my laptop I have two options for seeing history. One is click on history and then click on the links there.

rmabel Sat 30-Jul-11 16:27:47

yep ive done this all history came up except the ones i had seen with her name thats why i think he may have deleted it but i dont know enough to find out

neuroticmumof3 Sat 30-Jul-11 17:40:29

if you blocked someone on Facebook all their history would disappear so maybe that's what he's done?

SingOut Sat 30-Jul-11 18:04:36

Surely blocking someone on facebook doesn't retrospectively remove past internet browsing history from the computers hard drive! I'm sure that's not the case.

Hopefully a techy person will be along shortly. As you know you saw what you saw, however, maybe that's enough. You don't need proof, and the fact he's gone and deleted selectively to make it look as though you are mistaken is pretty dodgy, and speaks volumes about his guilt.

itwasthat Sat 30-Jul-11 20:21:57


garlicbutter Sat 30-Jul-11 21:51:35

Rmabel, he can delete all his FB history or only selected parts of it. He can also delete selected entries from the computer's history. You did see what you saw.
He might pretend you didn't see anything, but don't worry - you did see it and now he's deleted it.

Now you know he's lying to you, what are you going to do? How are you feeling?

havealittlefaithbaby Sun 31-Jul-11 20:28:20

Surely the issue here is that you're suspicious and his behaviour has only made it worse. Have toy sat down with him and told him that you're upset?

rmabel Sun 31-Jul-11 22:23:56

Could these deletions have been done from an i phone does any body know ?

rmabel Sun 31-Jul-11 22:24:37

and thanks for your help x

FabbyChic Sun 31-Jul-11 22:32:32

What do you mean the history? Are you talking the browser history so when you click it it goes to her profile? If you are talking the box at the top of fb that is random and shows what it thinks you may want to see.

rmabel Sun 31-Jul-11 22:35:37

I mean the browser history

babyhammock Sun 31-Jul-11 22:37:13

garlicbutter is right

YOU KNOW WHAT YOU SAW, the fact he is denying it and destroying the evidence means he not only has something to hide but he's treating you like an idiot.

Forget trying to reason with him, I don't think you'll get anywhere and he'll probably twist it round so that not only do you think you're gaga but you're a whatever for daring to question him.

I'd say his actions speak volumes for what's actually going on here, but I'm guessing you need more proof. A bit more amateur detective work methinks.

rmabel Sun 31-Jul-11 22:38:38

by the way i have told him exactly how upset i am he has sworn on all that matters to us that he has not been looking at her profile . it just gets worse

rmabel Sun 31-Jul-11 22:39:47

thank you garlic butter what can i do ?

babyhammock Sun 31-Jul-11 22:50:29

What a knob..
I'd make him think that I buy his story and I have made a mistake. Then do some more digging.
Its a very hard situation to be in. You know he's lying but he's denying it to your face in spite of overwhelming evidence.. ex used to do this loads and you do start doubting yourself. It really puts you off kilter and its such a cruel thing to do

HerHissyness Sun 31-Jul-11 23:24:43

C&P time.... See if YOU all understand what I've frigging said to him and why am I bashing my phone on my forehead???

Me: You need to decide what you need to do to live until that flat is sold. I have my life and it's going OK. I wouldn't change a single thing about it. If you do decide to come back to the UK, please don't tell DS at the moment as he's been very worried that you will shout &throw things. He misses you, but you scared him. We neither will put ourselves in that environment ever again. If you're somewhere in the UK, we will arrange visits when possible.

HIM: Can I stay at your place when I come back to england?


HerHissyness Sun 31-Jul-11 23:25:02

oh sorry, wrong thread blush

HerHissyness Sun 31-Jul-11 23:30:28

Seeing as I crashed in, only proper to pay attention and post! grin

he is certainly pulling the wool over your eyes, or trying to at the very least.

OK,so you are not mad, you know what you saw, and he is barefaced lying to you. Store this one up, be on your guard and wait.

Trust your insticts. they never lie.

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