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Not sure if I'm over-reacting to this message

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Magiciansgirl Tue 26-Jul-11 13:37:55

My OH left his phone at home today, and is at work now. He's a lorry driver, so out making deliveries all day, and what time he finishes depends on traffic, so he will normally phone to let me know.

I looked at his phone a few hours ago & saw there was a missed call (from his work) & a text. I thought the text might be for me, as in the past he's left a message on his phone when he's forgotten it (he can't remember my number) so I looked at it. The text said "Good morning, can you work your rest day tomorrow? kissy kissy x" I'm assuming that it was one of the women in the office as they handle the rotas for the drivers.

I don't know why it's bugging me, I'm normally not a very suspicious person & it could of course be innocent, but it's like my gut instinct is saying there is more to this. It doesn't help that I woke up with a terrible headache today & am pre-menstrual so generally in a bad mood! My initial reaction was to send a text back, but decided against that as I thought it might make me look crazy.

So, be honest - am I over-reacting? What would your first thoughts be?

cazzybabs Tue 26-Jul-11 13:40:00

oh I would just think it is the women being friendly rather than anything untoward

CoffeeIsMyFriend Tue 26-Jul-11 13:40:23

my first thought would be that 'kissy kissy' was her sucking up because your husband was asked to work his rest day.

Dont over analyse this. it is a text asking a favour and nothing more.

Take some paracetamol for your headache and go for a walk to help with PMT and stop over reacting.

cazzybabs Tue 26-Jul-11 13:40:31

(i'd be more worried if she was asking to meet up on his rest day not working)

edam Tue 26-Jul-11 13:41:52

agree with everyone else. But I would ask him about it just in case...

SingingTunelessly Tue 26-Jul-11 13:43:18

'Kiissy kissy' from a colleague on a work message?! Unprofessional at the very least. I'd let him know I'd seen it that's for sure.

AnotherMumOnHere Tue 26-Jul-11 13:43:31

I'm with the others on this one.

I think she is just sucking up to your husband trying to make her job easier and get him to work.

Think over-analyzing is going on here too.

Madlizzy Tue 26-Jul-11 13:45:52

Yep, just her trying to persuade your husband to work, no more than that.

whatsallthehullaballoo Tue 26-Jul-11 13:48:23

I wouldn't think twice about that one - and I have a suspicious mind !!

Flippingebay Tue 26-Jul-11 13:49:48

Sounds like it just the woman sucking up to him as she's asked him to work his rest day so I wouldn't worry about it.

If he was up to something he'd hardly a) leave his phone unattended b) have previously sent you a text/phoned you on it, as this gives you the opportunity to look at it..

If he was upto something dodgy then I'm sure he'd have either turned around and picked his phone up, or contacted you already and said he'd left his phone.

I would however let him know you'd read it and just check out his reaction wink

DontGoCurly Tue 26-Jul-11 13:54:51

Yes, I think it's a tongue-in-cheek way of sucking up to him to get him to work. Like 'pretty please' kind of thing.

Wouldn't worry and I'm a supicious b!tch!

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn Tue 26-Jul-11 13:56:39

My dh does a similar job, totally agree with the others she is just trying to get him to agree to going in for another shift.

Magiciansgirl Tue 26-Jul-11 15:15:34

Thanks everyone, I hadn't even thought of it being her sucking up to him! I hope he doesn't say yes though, he's been doing longer hours the past couple of weeks & he needs a rest.

Am feeling a bit better now, took DS to the park & I think the fresh air helped clear my head a bit.

Thank you all!

VelvetSnow Tue 26-Jul-11 15:23:18

Yep - agree with the majority.

The person feels bad about having to ask him to work, so she's sucking up to him. Just a bit of banter IMO, nothing to worry about.

And if your DH is anything like the delivery drivers I have in my family, then he's a grumpy bugger at work and sometimes needs pussyfooting around grin

alarkaspree Tue 26-Jul-11 15:23:50

I agree with others, this wouldn't make me suspicious.

You could always reply to say 'this is DH wife, sorry he left his phone at home today. I don't whether he can work that day but I'll ask him to get in touch if he calls'. That makes you look helpful, not crazy, and she will probably stop waiting to hear from him and look for someone else to do the shift.

nojustificationneeded Tue 26-Jul-11 15:28:57

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

sleepindogz Tue 26-Jul-11 15:31:10

lol sometimes my OH asks me to send emails to his work on his behalf and i can never resist putting love from & xxxx on them grin

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