I've just had my first son (8 weeks) with my husband of just over a year.
When we first got married I did not want a baby straight away and would have preferred to wait to few years to enjoy our freedom and spare income for a while before having a child. However I agreed to start trying soon after our wedding as he kept asking me to before I had a bit of a 'wobble' and said i wanted to wait awhile longer (at this point I wasn't pregnant). Anyway my husband threw a huge huff and I got the impression that if I didn't have a baby then he would leave me.
Two days after getting home from the hospital he said he regretted having our son, at this time my husband had stuff going on with work which meant he had to get decent sleep so i spent the first 2 weeks after the birth sleeping on the sofa with our baby in the living room so he could sleep properly plus he wasn't at home for practically any of his parternity leave and when he was home instead of helping just invited all his family round and when they were gone he left again. So i didn't know why he said it as he hadn't had to help me with the baby in anyway so far.
Throughout our relationship I have always given in to him (I know there is only myself to blame for this). He wanted a big wedding, where to go on holiday and honeymoon, to move nearer his friends and family and have the baby when we did. I even ended up having sex with him 6 weeks after the birth although I didn't feel ready as he kept coming onto me and saying everyone knows its safe after 6 weeks.
I guess I just feel having always letting him have it his way, given up my career and the fact my body is a mess he wouldn't have said what he did or acted the way he has.
I know I am probably being silly and should just get over these thinks but I can't help but feel a little resentful towards him. I guess I just want some advice on how to get past these things and see if I can move on.
Sorry for the long post.
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Want to stop feeling resentful towards my husband
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Funnyface89 · 25/07/2011 16:42
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