I wasn't sure where to post this buts it relationships which I worry would be affected if I voiced my (irrational?) stress
I have 2 children, aged 3 and 14 months. I am pretty relaxed about my older child (but wasnt when she was tiny tiny), its my youngest that causes me the anxiety.
I find that when anyone has had him, be it nursery/grandparents or DH I cant help but pick fault afterwards, I almost look for what they havent quite done right?? I think?
I think I feel "threatened" (ridiculous isnt it) and feel the need to re-assert my place, often overly so.
All the grandparents are on hand to babysit occassionally, they do it their own way but I think I am quite high maintenance about babies, and they know this so they do try to follow my times etc.
I am aware that sounds patronising but hes been the worst sleeping child you can imagine and if we dont follow a routine hes up hourly at night!
I do wish I could be more relaxed but sleep has become the be all and end all at the moment.
However, my main worry is the protective/defensive feeling i get afterwards, like I just want to take him away and have him to myself. I definately find that I feel tense.
I worry that the people who have babysat (which I am very grateful for) will see this and feel that I am ungrateful, and I'm worried why I feel like this?
I do remember I felt the same about DD but it got better about her turning 18 months, I think when they can talk I find it easier to have been apart?
Does anyone else feel like this? Am I mad?!
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Anyone else find it stressful after people have babysat for you?
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pamelat · 24/07/2011 21:44
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