Well we live a few hundered miles form each other, but i see your point , but i raised this before with him if he wanted to go on, he said yes , but thne ignores me and gives lots of excuses why he can not come and see me, so did not know what else to do as i felt i could not go on like this.
yes i could not go on like this , and it hurt like hell to do it , we even talked about living together ,he was the first man I had met in years who i thought genuinely liked me for myself, now i know i was wrong, so it is time to move on, thanks.
No Tanterose not me on skype , we had long distance relationship and thought it was going great until i told him my daughter was not moving out this year, as he wanted me to sell up and go and live with him, guess i have been saved from something.
Well, if the majority of the relationship was conducted via the internet etc I don't see anything particularly wrong about ending it the same way. I can't see the point in making a massive effort to see someone or talk to them directly only to dump them. But I don't think you should expect an acknowledgement.
And if the relationship was only going to work for him in your dd's absence, you have been saved from something. Who knows what might happen, even as an adult, your dd might need to move back in or need your help - if there's no room for your children in a partner's life, then he's not accepting the whole package, the whole you.
Yes your right Buzzsore, I have raised my DD single handed for nearly 20 years and will continue to support her as a student she has 3 jobs and does not take money from me, so could not afford to move out, and i am happy with that. The irony is this guy has 4 sprogs of his own and the youngest still lives with mum, so i thought (stupidily) he would be the first to understand my position and commitment to my family, so guess it is for the best ..........thanks makes me feel abit better.
Eh actually no he has not deleted me, he has answered my email this morning and wants to try and make things work , sorry to disappoint you , i was looking for advice and a bit of tea and sympathy nothing more .
Oh dear you seem to be in a bit of pickle the pair of you. On off on off! To answer your initial question. No, I dont think ending something by email is terrible. There is no good way to end something. I personally would rather it done to me this way. Whats the point in travelling to see them and having to dump or get dumped? Id rather be home with a bottle of Cava, tissues and a bit of privacy to lick my wounds.
Suspect the only reason you dumped and expected an answer is because this sort of stuff is the pattern of things with him and you did it for a reaction. Not a good sign.....
To be honest, bottom line is I dont think your really suited are you?
You hit the nail on the head , and no we are not suited so will not be seeing him again, and yes SomethingProfound this is the very same guy who went on holiday, still todays news is tomorrows history isnt it , thanks anyway you guys.
OOh thanks MUMS and SomethingP, you are so right and I have decided no this man is not for me , it is just i hate being horrible to someone it is not in my nature , that is why i over analyse the situation i think, so thanks for the tea and sympathy , time for me to wake up and smell the coffee!
And yea got the wine and a good movie and the tissues!