Wonder what you think of this. I am in her kitchen, cooking dinner for us. I need tarragon, which we are both sure will be in her massive herb rack (of which she is very proud). It isn't. I say "You could go and get some from the Coop" (not more than 5 mins away on foot, 2 in the car). She says "Oh I'm not going just for that, can't you use something else?" I am stumped, both at the refusal, and at what to substitute (tarragon and burned-off alcohol give the dish its distinctive sharp taste). Anyway, I use thyme and basil and it turns out ok - but not as good as with tarragon.
After the meal, we have a blazing row - about something completely different, and it turns out to be the end of the affair (my decision). Now I'm wondering if my 'stumpedness' at her refusal affected the development of the row... BTW I don't regret the end of the relationship.
Why on earth would some herbs influence this situation?! Surely you might just as well wonder if you had a blazing row because one/both of you were suffering from PMT/because it was raining/because you were upset that dinner didn't turn out as well as it might have - for whatever reason?
Honestly? I think you sound a bit precious about the tarragon.....Only you know if your "stumpedness" led to the row - I'm a bit stumped as to why you were so stumped that she didn't want to go out - perhaps she simply couldn't be bothered/see the point?
Bit of a storm in a tea pot really......If a lack of tarragon is all you've got to worry about, you're doing pretty well
Well, ignoring the fact that your respective genders have nothing to do with this, she might have been happier to go out for tarragon if she wasn't already spoiling for a fight. You might have been more content to use something else (or check the herbs in advance) if you weren't already spoiling for a fight.
So you weren't really "stumped", you were just in denial at that stage.
Thanks for the reminder! I knew my herb garden was missing something, but couldn't think what